I was just thinking…are problems between us on GS magnified because we never see each other (well most of us) face to face? For instance I will see people disliking each other on the basis of a few posts or disagreement on ONE issue and then proceeding to have bad blood for a long time; but when we analyse the dislike it boils down to ‘‘their point was different to mine’’ yet that person may very well be extremely nice otherwise but the judgement, damning one, will have been made on the basis of a post or certain view. Would we have the same level of dislike for that person if we knew them or interacted with them each day face to face? I don’t think so.
I don’t know why I am doing this post, just an observation
in all seriousness, i'd prolly get the same amount of wound up if it were in real life. meaning i don't hold out a grudge on GS any further than i would in real life either.
Would we have the same level of dislike for that person if we knew them or interacted with them each day face to face? I don't think so.
Here's what I think, Shak. The forums that members predominantly visit....you can usually see a consistency in their posts. You see a consistency in their type of humor, in their word-choice, in their thought process .....provided they're usually serious and not trolling around. Now IMO...these traits would also be seen in real-life in when it comes to a discussion of similar topics.
For example, someone who posts predominantly in the fashion forum....and their posts reflect a knoweldge/passion for that area. I think when you meet that invididual in real life.....and talk about fashion....you're likely to find that same interest. But that doesn't necessarily mean that they don't have other interests or traits.
I guess what I'm trying to say (and rather inarticulately) is that there is MUCH MORE to a person in real life......but if you notice a certain consistency on GS in their posts (with certain ideas, their type of humor, attitude, word-choice)....I think you'd see a reflection of that in real-life...although again it doesn't represent their personality in its entirety.
Needless to say, the problem with online communication is that you can't always determine one's intentions behind a post. Were they being rude to you...or just silly in general? You can't see their body language or hear the tone of their voice and that leaves greater room for a misunderstanding. When you meet someone in person....their bodylanguage, manner of speaking, gestures, and other nuances....provide a different feel to their comments that you won't get online. Someone whose posts you might find annoying to READ online.....you may respond differently to those ideas if you were to hear them in person (along with those nuances)...and get a different feel for them.
Also, people prefer different modes of communication. Some do a lot better in person...while others prefer email/text/etc .
I believe disagreement is positive in many aspect. I personally dont put anyone on my judgment on the basis of posts. I often see gs members with different POV do have genuine valid reason on particular issue, it was me who did not recognize those points at same time.
Siblings from same parents may have disagreements why dont gs members too. :@:
Like real life on GS too, first impression is the last impression. As in all relationships you have to be extremely cautious in the beginning on GS not to annoy others. Do not come across as a smarty pants , douche bag , wise guy or snot unless you plan to stick around as one and do not care about the emotions of others and do not care much about making friends.
