Re: Growing Old in America
It is true most if not all DIL’s and SIL’s want their privacy and don’t want too much intrusion - many don’t want to take complete responsiblity for them. If you or your spouse is the only child then there is no question the burden falls on 1 child. However, what about those families that have 9 or 10 children and ONLY 1 or 2 children step up to the plate to take responsibility for the parent(S)?
THAT IS WRONG! When some of the children look the other way and say that their wives or husbands are not cooperative. In North America Housewives don’t typically just stay at home. They run around doing a million things. So one thing pakistani families need to understand is that all the children (this includes female children) need to feel responsible.
One other thing is it fair that my husband expects me to take care of his parents and at the same time feels that my parents are not my responsibility but of my brothers? We need to change this mentality. As a female my Jannat lies beneath my parents feet not my inlaws feet. NO I will not stop my husband from taking care of his parents but Paki men also need to realize that their wives have responsiblity towards their own parents if they are alive.