Can anyone please tell me what things a groom’s bari should contain?.. In your families, what do the girl’s side give the boy?
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umm, as far as my understanding goes, bari is what the guy's side gives the girl (and her family). Pinhoni is clothes and stuff for the groom's family from the girl's side. Then there's jahez which is like clothes, jewellery and other personal and household stuff that the girl's family gifts her. Which one do you want to know about?
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ohh… i guess its the pinhoni i want to know about.. the clothes, shoes and whatever the bride’s side gives the groom.. not the family, the groom himself… i really dont understand these things 
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Okay, I understand what you mean. My nani says this is called Shahana. I think what you give varies from family to family and depends on what you are comfortable with / can afford but I'm going to outline the basics as I know them.
First off are the clothes for the wedding functions themselves. This varies from family to family. In my family (urdu speaking), the girl's family pays for the guy's clothes for both the baraat and valima (the boy's family takes care of the girl's clothes). In my in laws (punjabi), each side provides the clothes for both the bride and groom for their own functions respectively. Since we're following my in laws' way of doing things, we will pay for both the baraat outfits and they will pay for both valima outfits.
In addition to this, you generally include some other things also. For example:
A few more clothes. My parents will probably give him a 3 piece suit, some formal shirts, ties, a couple of kurta shalwars, some winter wear like a shawl and a sweater or two. Maybe even a good men's pajama suit (not sure about this tho)
Shoes. To go with the event clothes plus maybe an extra pair or something.
Accessories. Can add some or all of the following: wallet, perfume, belt, cuff links, tie pin, vanity set, socks, handkerchiefs and whatever else fine dandy men use :P
Salaami. This isn't sent along with the shahana - my bad. this is in the form of a cash amount or some other expensive gift like a good watch or both. I remember there used to be a big deal about putting the watch on the guy and making sure the video camera guy covered that :-P My nani says an elder from the girl's side presents the groom with his salaami at the rukhsati.
Some people now also include tech gadgets like a high-end phone or an iPad. It's not a bad idea, but i'm not going to include that. (not sure if you'd add this to the shanana or present it to the guy separately).
This is what I know. Ask around in your family and your in laws to get a better idea of everybody's expectations. Hope this helps :)
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Thanks for the detailed post Turtle! You definitely helped me a lot!
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Wow, thanx!!.. Thats very very helpful... :)
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In my family, we call it “groom’s barri” as well…never heard of or used the word “pehnaoni” before.
We give a suit, dress shirts, ties, dress shoes, (Girls family pays for grooms wedding attire in my family) casual slacks, casual shirts, 2-3 sets of pajamas/nightclothes (including a robe), shaving kit, wallet & keychain set, Cologne and then our eldest mamoo always gifts the groom a nice watch 
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Pehnaoni is what you give the groom’s family not the groom himself like clothes for his family and maybe gold. Its a common word in Urdu Speaking families, though people from bihar call it nannadana . Maybe Hyderabadais use a different word.
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I’ve never heard that word used before in my family, I don’t know what we use, I’ll have to find out now lol.
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Am urdu speaking from karachi. Never heard of any word other than barri…