I don’t think there has ever been a topic on this but I could be wrong and always good to get fresh insight in to something.
I was wondering, lets say you marry in to a joint family. MIL etc all of you live together. Who does the grocery shopping? Is there a conflict of interest between MIL and DIL?
Lets say you are not married in to a joint family and you live alone with your husband. Do you go out and do the grocery shopping alone, ask your hubby to get you the things or what?
Personally, how is grocery shopping done in your household?
I'm not married but i can still answer cuz i live in a joint family system. Grocery shopping is done at times by my mother n at times by my bro,bhabi and at times together. There is no fuss over it. We live together, eat together n buy stuff together. No issues at all.
But i can tell it must be an issue at most joint families, where the sass n bahu ought to make this n anything at all an ego issue.
Oh I hate grocery shoppings. We order it online and sometimes my husband gets things that we run out. I can't spend more than 15 minutes in a grocery shop because the crowded and depressing enviornment of grocery stores, specially on weekends.
^Because everyone in the grocery store looks depressed and always in a hurry. And then running around after my three boys and worrying about their safety that they might get hurt by a trolly or something is another issue.
I live in a joint family system and my in-laws do the grocery shopping each week. If the hubs and I want to buy something we go ahead and buy it, but if my MIL asks to pick something up from the grocery store she always insists she pay us back b/c she doesn't want us to use our money for groceries.
im married and do not live in a joint family system. i LOOOVE to do the grocery shopping. i find it as a stress reliever, lol. the only time hubby goes with me is if per chance i do it on the weekends..thats it. otherwise its strictly my territory.
Why wud this even be a issue?... If MIL does shopping you could always ask her to get you your things. :-S or am i missing something?
cuz some people like 2 make issues................it can be either 1) the sass wants to take on responsibilities of the house n learn how 2 run the house...so she may ask her to do the groceries. which in turn wl be taken as the sass wanting a maid out of her bahu :D. 2) the the bahu wants to do grocery, wanting to run the place n all. N the sass thnks she is wanting to take over the house.
so thats wat the whole fuss is abt.
I live in a joint family system and my in-laws do the grocery shopping each week. If the hubs and I want to buy something we go ahead and buy it, but if my MIL asks to pick something up from the grocery store she always insists she pay us back b/c she doesn't want us to use our money for groceries.
Sunday is dedicated for grocery shopping in our home. We all go together. I , wife and kids. That way everybody participates and during the week , they will not have the chance to object against a meal or dish over breakfast , lunch or dinner.
One big happy family. :D
It can be pretty tricky. Before I lived with my husband I lived with my brother and his wife. My brother would ask me if i needed anything and would pick up a few things for me, but that stopped soon after cz his wife had a problem with it.
It can be an issue because…you may want to cook one thing, while the MIL wants to cook something else. But utlimately it comes down to control/ego issue just like Maham said. BUT i dont think its a bad thing. My mother and my MIL are both very possessive about their kitchens and hwo to do things…im sure most women are.
its one thing to buy a few things for yourself, when you’re living in a family…but buying FOR a family is totally different ball game. it takes alot of plannnig, especially when you’re on a budget. Looking through diferent fliers nad browsing websites to see which places has the best deals, pushing through crowds (if u shop in the evening or during weekends), u have to take into account the likes and dislikes of everyone in the house…if u want something for yourself, but everyone else finishes it :halo: or u may feel bad for etting something that wont benefit everybody else.
Add to that, if u dont have a car…makes the task much harder.
I am married and live without inlaws. Mostly, i try to do it during the week without him so we can use the time together to do something else. If we do need to make a trip, he will do it during weeknights or weekend.
I usually make the trip to grocery store during lunch or after work as needed....and we go to indian bazaar together on weeknite or weekends....one sits in car double parked and other goes in to get stuff quickly. He usually ends up getting mushy veggies/fruits etc so I prefer to get that stuff so at least its fresh.
Ok so *your *brother used to get you things but his wife has a problem with getting you some bits here n there? wow! That really is pathetic.
But then again you get weird people!
Gosh seriously GS is really preparing me for any drama i will have. But i dont think i wud stop my hubby from buying food for my sil… Thats abit extreme me thinks!
There is no fuss over it. We live together, eat together n buy stuff together. No issues at all
well same here...
one more thing there is no issue between me and my SIL over grocessry shopping ... we buy stufff together if something we want to have of our own interest we hve no problem at all.. we can what we want..
