when marriages are foesaken because of endless greed on anyone’s family’s part, just how sad is it.
what are some of the ways, young couples can strike and maintain a balance, in spending of their own families, and not make each other feel, wasteful or greedy?
Re: greed
Live within your means.
Re: greed
Dush, this is a very tricky question. One man's greed may be other man's right.
I believe, though, I cannot exercise it as I want, that if I have fulfilled my right to cater to the current and near-future needs of my family, I have obligation to help, not necessarily financially, other close ones around.
Re: greed
I have seen marriages happening only to get hold of others property....it is sad but things have gone too materialistic in Pakistan. Only boy and the girl suffer.....
My Ex was specifically asked by her family to persuade me that I transfer the title of my house in her name soon after marriage....... I loved her from heart but she kept asking this in different ways. I always saw her on phone with her mother getting ridiculous instructions.....even heard with my OWN ears.
On my side, my mother didn't like her much as my brothers wife is my khala's daughter and my Ex was from distant family. She wanted her to live like she wanted......My Ex was 23 and my mother 63. We ended up in divorce....even sorcery done on us....
The best I would advise new couples is that they get job in another city.....live there.....and support their parents back home at their best...financially....if they are old provide them maids etc.....visit both sides of the family every year or so......that is the only way you will live peacefully! And also save money!
If you are in Pakistan living close to family.....your family members will eat you up like vultures....unnecessary burdens.....stays....taunts.....etc. Even if u bring stars for them from the sky.....they will still point fingers on you....The day u r in trouble no one will come out to help u.
So better be away and get yourself strong.....