Grandparents

[wishkamar]

Re: Grandparents

@raania

I had to have an emergency C-sec and the dadi showed up inside the labor room while I was being prepped (grrrr) and inquired the nurses about baby’s heartbeat and she was the first one I saw in the post-op ICU after recovering a bit from the anaesthesia and she was continuously present for more than 24 hrs after the baby’s birth not giving me and hubby time with the baby alone to bond or even giving me time alone with the baby. Interfered with each and every tiny thing, including how I should feed him (i was a newbie, really wanted to be alone), made my baby wear dirty clothes without them being washed and ironed first, that she picked from a shop then and there and I had to be rude and kick her out of the room every time the ayah’s had to come and help me change. It was HORRIBLE! actually both me and my mom were pretty ticked off that tears streamed down my face the entire night and I had to beg my OB to discharge us earlier the next day so we could go to my mom’s place and get some privacy!

So once I go back to my hubby/in-law’s place after 6 weeks, all I see her is being more interfering with my kid, since technically its their pota and more of theirs for them, and getting to hear all the time that she knows better since she’s raised 8 kids! I duno what I’m gonna do :s

How ridiculous and I am NOT referring to the dadi of the baby :halo::p.

Anyway, back to the original question - my dadi and nana passed away when my father and mother were very young and, therefore, I never got to see either of them. However, I was very fortunate to have spent some years with my dada and nani and those are the BEST memories of my childhood if I may say so. I was the oldest grandchildren in both sides of the family and, therefore, the apple of everyone’s eyes. My grandfather is the one who inculcated the love of books in me and my nanni was more like a mother than a grandmother. I was practically raised by her up until 16 years of age. May ALLAH TALLAH bless their souls, ameen!

P.S. I can’t help but thank ALLAH TALLAH to have me blessed with parents who weren’t even 1/nth vile, vicious, and toxic, like some parents here on GS, and allowed me establish a very beautiful and strong bond with my both grand parents which is something I am going to cherish ALL my life.