Re: Grandparents and parents
the second problem is a driving me nuts lately. And no it is not my inlaws it my father who just doesnt pay attention. It is tricky situation, my father is the type of forceful personality who always likes to dominate others. It is very hard for him to udnerstand that although he is an elder, going ahead and cutting hair of my daughter is not a reasonable thing to do when me and my husband donot want him to. Twice i have talked with him in private but it falls on deaf ears. Thankfully my husband is a patient man and he doesnot make a big fuss of the issue that he could if he wanted. (coz honestly last time nana jan cut her hair it was a nightmare, a truly bad cut).
Second is the trouble of him sneaking things that i have kept her away from. Like chocolates and drinks ,lollies and ice creams. Although on that i draw a line and take her away when i find him giving it to her. He tries to sneak her now and then so i have to be extra vigilant when those two are together.
I think the grand parents conflicts are particularily harder to deal with because you want to model a respect for parents for your child yet have some rules established. Ofcourse on the other side it is an extremely valuable relationship, i still have the fondest memories of my dado and she was an absolute legend but in retrospect she just didnt discipline us ever! I have no single memory of her scolding anybody no matter how grave the issue be.