We all know what Islam’s stance is regarding gossip. It is akin to eating the flesh of a “dead brother”. Very recently, i was told something about me by someone who in turn was informed by someone else… i am grateful i cannot comprehend the joy an individual possesses in spreading misinformation regarding someone else. Please, please, please realize that gossip hurts - i wouldn’t wish this type of pain on anyone else. If you have specific queries regarding someone else, please consider adopting an approach that would not bring shame to you or your family - just ask the concerned individual in a straightforward manner. To hear it from a third party, is rather hurtful.
i am no angel, i have gossiped also and sadly being human and therefore faulty will do so in the future. i am so grateful that my conscience kicks in everytime i do; guilt is a mandatory factor for repenting for indulging in the act. i am not perfect, i have heard gossip and repeated gossip, so by no means am i implying i am perfect. i am grateful, though, that at least i feel bad enough to repent afterwards and have reduced the gossiping i would normally have done. Our ultimate goal is to be better Muslims is it not.
i guess that’s all i wanted to say. Please reconsider before you spread misinformation about someone else, whether or not your niyyat was to maliciously spread that misinformation or whether you honestly believed it yourself. There are more productive activities we can all indulge in, i am certain, rather than engaging in gossip. Just ask the person directly if you have a question in your mind; i am certain they would have more respect for you if you utilized that route, rather than the concerned individual hearing about it via a roundabout route. It’s no picnic in the park to hear inaccurate information about you from a third source.
Thanks to those who read this. :~)
jazakallah hugz