The thread in life 1 about child molestation prompted me to start a thread here.
It’s so sad to see the number of children that are being or have been sexually abused.
Parents please talk to your kids (if you havent already) about child molestation and teach them how to protect themselves. There is a wealth of information out there (google it) if you do not know how to bring it up.
Teach them about what is good touch (ie hugging, holding hands, kiss on the cheek etc) bad touch (punching, kicking) and secret touch (touches that are inappropriate like the buttocks, genitals, etc and which they are often told to keep a secret.)
so how many of you have talked to your kids about this? what age is appropriate? how did you bring it up? and what did you say? please discuss so that you can give other parents ideas and suggestions on how to talk to their kids about this.
Also I came across a site where you can find out if you have any registered sex offenders ( in the USA)in your area…hope you find it helpful.
I have talked to my kids about it and do remind them and ask questions from time to time.
I do talk to my kids and reinforce that I am their best friend and we dont keep secrets between each other..and this makes them comfortable to talk about anything and everything.
One time TLK posted this set of videos that were in Pakistan that edcated kids and families about the dangers. They were very good, and presented various situations and what the kids should do. I hope he posts them again here.
AE, I haven't talked to my older daughter yet. The younger one is too small...but I have informed her about strangers and men and boys and that at school she should always stay where the supervisors are are and never go to the corners etc etc...
Its tricky, I dont know about all children and parents, but as a child its sometimes difficult to share or even ask such questions to ones parents.
I try and teach my younger cousins all they need to know about friendship, relationships, stranger danger and all that jazz.
I think its easier to listen to a fabulous elder cousin than a parent. Most kids are only used to their parents lectures about not tidying their rooms, therefor might not consider a talk about stranger danger to be quite serious.
I reckon the secrets a child would feel comfortable sharing with their parents are few and far between.
Im not saying parents should not tell their children these things and that it is not their responsibility, im just talking from personal experience. Whenever I needed to know about anything like this I would talk to my young aunty as I thought she was well cool and I knew that I would listen to her. She used and still does give me the most amazing advice.
Thanks for reminding us AE...
I used to talk to my son when he started school, and told him he needs to protect his private parts.. If anyone touches you just come to me, and tell me..
There was one time when I went to a shop and he was with me. I was looking at the bags on the rack and he was standing there trying to tie his belt. when I came around the shelf I saw one sales man standing with him telling him, lao main belt band kar doon. And I saw that sales man pulling his trouser, and felt that guy was upto something bad. So I went to him and pulled my son away and told the sales guy that we dont need his help.. but I was so confused I didnt know what to do. I just left the shop. But at the counter I asked the other guy his name and took the administration's number that I wanted to report him..
But I never did.. and it has been 2 yrs I never went to that shop again...
I think we really need to educate ourselfs as well as our kids.
its been happening every where and thats what worries me though iam not a mum yet but what we'r gonna do when children are not even safe my mum use to tell her childhood stories that how they and all other cousins use to run around the galli mohallas and play put and now a days little girls acts like adults wear dupattas n all when its not the'r age to do all this its free care age but the'r told to do all this......once i remember i went to pak in summer few years back and i went to my chachi's house whoos my nand (SIL) now she ws renovating her house those days and had men at the upper portion who came for renovation and she had her lower part of the house locked so that no kid would go up untill my chachoo didnt came back from work but i think its us who are to be blame its us who should be educated and stop acting like animals when ever i took a newspaper to read to know whats happening around the world such news pop up especially in dubai its every where in malls supermarkets i think kids shouldnt be left alone outside..
Hareem...I think a child that is too young to speak will not understand the concept behind child molestation.
IMO age 3 seems appropriate to teach a child about good touch, bad touch and secret touch. As they get older you can further explain in more detail.
It's a cruel world we live in.....it's vital to safe guard our children, nieces, nephews, grandkids from these predators.
I remind my nieces and nephews every few months how to protect themselves from people like this and what to do if someone tries to touch them inappropriately. I have told them that they should tell their parents if something like this happens and if they are not comfortable telling them....to come to me.
My daughter asked me today how strangers could be bad...in what ways. It was so hard for me but I told her a few things. She was shocked but I think she's ready to know.
ugh, I don't even want to start thinking about this topic yet, all I know is that if someone tries anything with my girl, they're going to get a special touch of their own.
