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oh please .some of you need to get over yourselves. nobody wants to marry someone they think is ugly, everyone wants someone whose attractive and yeah....looking good is not a crime, good grooming is not a sin, nor is one "shallow" if they take care of their looks/grooming and want someone who is the same.
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LOL @ the responses in this thread
Denial isn't a river in Egypt...
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I think people misunderstood the topic , not saying looking good is bad or that looking for someone whose good looking is wrong! Its normal.Just saying that in today's society a lot more emphasis is giving on looks when compared to other more important things. Especially when arranging marriages looks seem to be more important, and if someone is better looking their given more importance when compared to someone who might be a better person but just not as "good looking". It happens, a lot of people don't get rishtas because their black , or fat or whatever ...people get rejected on the basis of thier looks . This on the whole is shallow as there is much more to a person then their looks.
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I agree that in rishta business people prefer good looks. In fact i am agreed with Zareen Khan, that families want complete package (good looking, educated, rich, sughar, smart and etc).
I never prefer good looks for my partners. Dressing is more important besides education, career and family background. In my point of view if guy dressed up well he looks cool and smart.
For me dressing is more important for men and women both.
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being attractive and being attracted to someone are two different things
you can be attracted to someone who doesn't fit the standard definition of "attractive" while you can find someone attractive without being attracted to them.
well said. i believe being attracted is important but being attrated to someone doesnt mean just by looks its also how they are and how they carry themselves. everyone has different tastes. there isnt just one type of "good looking"
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being beautiful is always advantageous for girls. married life is not always revolve around the beauty of spouse but personality, wisdom, intelligence plays important role.
beauty + brain is good package but it is not widely available.
most desi families die for fair complexion.
few educated and decent families look at overall personality of girl.
IMHO, family background and education are core element. if girl is not that beautiful but her education is good enough then go with her.
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Good looks are definitley desired by everyone in their partners. But we don't live in a world where we get exactly what we want. Thus when choosing between a person with good looks + zero personality + no education and a person with average looks + good personality + acceptable/ god education, we can ignore the looks. I have seen average looking persons with exceptionally good personalities and grooming and such kinda people are very attractive.
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why does it have to be either extreme? a good looking person CAN be educated and have a good character and an ugly person can be lacking good personality/character
life isn't that black and white, its not rocket science.
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and here i thought we were all goodlooking
girls who arent getting rishtay are probably making the mistake of not wearing pretty kapray and tons of makeup.
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Just saying that in today's society a lot more emphasis is giving on looks when compared to other more important things.
It's all subjective tho and can depend on the person's situation eg. some ppl are saying family background is more important but for me I wasn't going to live with my other half's family and I always had the idea that a person can't exactly help who his family are, where he came from or how they behave. Atraction was the most important thing to me alongside chemistry and then other things came after..
I don't think it's fair to say one attribute must necessarily be more important than another as everyone's different and** the things that matter and might affect you might not affect them at all..**
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If we get a good looking person who is educated and belongs to a good family, then we ARE lucky. I was talking about if we had to choose between only two available options.
I have not seen much persons in real life though who are dead gorgeous, belongs to good family, have excellent education, have excellent personality and have good behaviour/morals. If you find such a guy, do lemme know 
(he should be a Sunni Muslim and a Pakistani too :p).
There can be a few lucky girls who get such husbands. Not much in my social circle though. No one dislikes/ ignores good looks and is definietly ready to die for them.
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Everyone’s entitled to select their partners based on their own desires and benchmarks. So they want someone good looking? Big whoop!
Its funny how people now want to regulate marriage and partners! 
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It's all subjective tho and can depend on the person's situation eg. some ppl are saying family background is more important but for me I wasn't going to live with my other half's family and I always had the idea that a person can't exactly help who his family are, where he came from or how they behave. Atraction was the most important thing to me alongside chemistry and then other things came after..
I don't think it's fair to say one attribute must necessarily be more important than another as everyone's different andthe things that matter and might affect you might not affect them at all..
I agree with attraction part.
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Hey Everyone
Something that has not yet been discussed but probably should be, is looks. How important are looks for you when choosing your life partner? Another thing, why is it that often we see that people who are good looking have no problems when it comes to proposals...despite their personality. however people who may have good personalities but are not so good looking don't get many, if any, proposals. Often girls who are not getting any proposals are not getting them because of their looks, its not like these girls have bad personalities. Why is this is the case? Will we ever move on? Whats your opnion, do we still live in a society that worships good looks? or have people moved on? Any experiences , stories.
Love to hear what you guys have to say. :)
It has been discussed many a times on these forums and it has been decided that good looks are the most important and most sought after trait in a future spouse. But if you have lots of moo la then they can be ignored. End of the discussion.
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It has been discussed many a times on these forums and it has been decided that good looks are the most important and most sought after trait in a future spouse. But if you have lots of moo la then they can be ignored. End of the discussion.
beauty is dependent on moo la. :@:
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beauty is dependent on moo la. :@:
If you say it this way , if you have moo la , plastic surgeon can make you a better looking person than you are.
But what I am saying is that if someone has moo la but ugly then a lot of people will be happy to marry that person for his/her money.
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i was thinking that far. 
maintenance is still required. and beautiful people need it more.
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One of my friends used to joke that in our culture of arranged marriage always ensure that the girl has good looks. In case she turns out to have a horrible personality and you cannot get along, at least you'll have the looks to fall back on.
Now for me looks aren't everything. Obviously I still need to be attracted to her but I need someone who I can communicate with intelligently and who is independent. I hate to baby-sit anyone.
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Looks reel them in, it's how you are after which matters.