I’ve had this conversation with a few people of the opposing gender at work. What surprised me were their responses on how open they were to let their spouse seek pleasure from else where.
Me: Would you let your husband/boyfriend enjoy xXx videos and go to strip bars?
Girl #1 I don’t have a problem with it. So as long as its in moderation.
Girl #2 I’d let him go and see what the fuss is all about in the bars but porn videos are fine to watch.
Me questioning girl #2 Then would you let him go to those bars again once he’s seen it there?
Girl #2 Yes, if he really wants to…he can go there and have fun; so as long as he comes home to me.
Me questioning girl #2 So when he comes home to you, do you think he’s making love to you or having sex with those women in his mind he had seen in the videos/strip bars?
Girl #2 Does it matter, its not like I make love to him all the time, I just think about someone else when with him, it adds spice to our relationship!
Me: Wouldn’t you compare??
Girl #2 Sometimes
Now ladies or gents, how would you react to this? For the gents, you can switch roles and let your wife/girlfriend go to male strip bars or watch other men.
I'd never go to strip clubs or watch porn movies, not only because I think it's pathetic, but simply out of respect for my wife. I also wouldn't expect her to go to male strip clubs, or appreciate it. Why would I need to do such things if I was married? I'd rather enjoy every moment with my wife, instead of watching pathetic videos or watching girls swinging around on poles.
Im sure uve seen Devils Advocate
Where Al Pacino says "God shows u but says u cant touch
and then man touches and then god says ok touch but not
taste and then man tastes and then god says taste but
dont bite and then man does...... so on
Well i think this is exactly that ... man/women are weak
And one thing leads to another
Tonite the club tomorrow the strip bar then the affair
Anything that leads to bad is BAD!
When this girl u spoke to and her hubby (when it happens) ever
get a divorce .... theyll have themselves to blame for it
because its their own fault that their spouse got boring ...
actually it was a spin off when the question was directed towards me if I liked doing that stuff, so I merely turned the question around to put the spot light off of me.
Coco yaar…do you work in Jeddah Saudi Arabia? None of what you observed is either immoral or abnormal. Wouldn’t you rather go to a bar than to pick up a carton of milk from the corner deli? Bhaijan, this is a free world, and everyone is born with either that or that-that, so it needs to be looked after.
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Coco yaar…do you work in Jeddah Saudi Arabia? None of what you observed is either immoral or abnormal. Wouldn’t you rather go to a bar than to pick up a carton of milk from the corner deli? Bhaijan, this is a free world, and everyone is born with either that or that-that, so it needs to be looked after.
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:) To you maybe its not immoral or abnormal. No, I rather wouldn't go to a bar. Its a free world alright, a free world with visible limitations created by the norms of society.
I don't follow your last statement "and everyone is born with either that or that-that, so it needs to be looked after"
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NO.
Call me conservative, close minded or whatever you want.
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ok we will call you WAX, its that ok ;)
any way, CoCo Bhayee .D500s is right, any thing that starts with BAD its goes to BAD.
to some extent that Porn thing is ok, just to excite I mean,, but that stripping thing might coz a lot of harm after wards.
and if that Girl really says keh she is thinking of some one else while they are making love, then the point comes if they are loyal to each other or not,.
and what is the husband is not there for some time for any reason, then would she be going for that person who she has been fantasizing during her intimate moments with her own husband. thats truely disgusting.
how can one partner will tolerate that there partner is thinkging of some one else to have better fun or share of feelings.
Brother Coco,,,if you old enough to have “that” conversation with the other gender, you are one “immoral” schmuck by your own definition. Women don’t jump to bed by simple talk, you have got to show some action to match your words too. Don’t let your morality come between your inquiry and your desires. You should be asking question of the other Gender to match your morality.
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Brother Coco,,,if you old enough to have “that” conversation with the other gender, you are one “immoral” schmuck by your own definition. Women don’t jump to bed by simple talk, you have got to show some action to match your words too. Don’t let your morality come between your inquiry and your desires. You should be asking question of the other Gender to match your morality.
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As I mentioned before the conversation didn't get started by me but I didn't want to get in the muck of it so I diverted it onto them at the time thats all I could think of, I'm not sure what others would have done in the heat of the situation but I couldn't say anything else except flip it around. I had no taste for inquiry neither do I desire what is being discussed. The questions asked were out of spite since I didn't want to answer their questions. :)
I am not surprised at the topic, these discussions were a norm at the college. It’s a different culture with different values. One conversation I remember went something like this, girl goes " I don’t care how he looks, his penis has to be the right size, I won’t date anyone with a small penis". In this culture men and women have many partners until they get hitched. God knows what or who they’re thinking about while having sex. Has anyone noticed that most marriages in USA occur when bride and groom are atleast in their thirties? They could’ve easily been with a few to many partners.
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I'd never go to strip clubs or watch porn movies, not only because I think it's pathetic, but simply out of respect for my wife. I also wouldn't expect her to go to male strip clubs, or appreciate it. Why would I need to do such things if I was married? I'd rather enjoy every moment with my wife, instead of watching pathetic videos or watching girls swinging around on poles.
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i agree with fret wizard i rather enjoy wit my bf or hubby than go do that stupid stuff and same would go for him
I’d watch X-rated movies with my significant other only if that is what would turn on me or my partner…otherwise, it isn’t the best thing in the world to indulge in…there are other things much more creative and pleasurable for a couple to do to turn each other on. As far as strip clubs, sorry to say but they’re for losers!
Amigo: we as humans first indulge in our desires and succumb to them. Religion teaches what is right and wrong but it doesn't necessarily stop us from doing what is forbidden hence the chaos in the world. So in the end everyone is held accountable for their own actions. All the best to you for pointing it out to people whats right and wrong according to religion but we aren't really discussing religious beliefs rather its more of a moral and ethical standpoint from a personal perspective.
Surely, you think its haraam/forbidden. But question remains would you and why not? I'm asking this because we both know, that at one point or another we've done something contrary to religious beliefs.
Wouldn’t you compare??
actually it was a spin off when the question was directed towards me if I liked doing that stuff, so I merely turned the question around to put the spot light off of me.
