Going to visit susraal pre-shadi?

[Sehrysh]

@Sara516

If your mom says no then don’t go.

I THINK it is looked down upon if you go visit them alone or with the guy…i hope this doesn’t sound backwards but in most cases, the girl should never see the guys’ parents alone (alone as in without her family).

but phone calls/online communication is okay…I think.

My first reaction to the question was an eyeroll, like this Like why wouldn’t you visit your in-laws - it helps you establish a relationship with them and get over the evil in-laws fears.

But after reading Sara’s comment, I agree - this makes sense. Telephone calls and meetings with both families make more sense and accomplishes the same goals of fostering closeness between the DIL and ILs and samdhianas while minimizing any potential negative fallout.