Re: Going to an ex's wedding
I hate weddings. Esp. Desi weddings. So me not showing up is as natural as the sun shining.
Re: Going to an ex's wedding
It is possible. I just threw the rishta scenario in to legitimize it for the conservative people who haww-hayee over dating.
But even in a rishta talk, maybe future MIL was initially keen and then when her son/daughter went gaga over the girl/guy, she cancelled the rishta because she was afraid of losing her child. But only your own and your ex's immediate family know about the failed rishta.
LOL.
Even if its only your parents who know about the rishta.......you have no way of knowing for sure that the ex's immediate family (especially the mother) did not talk about it to other family members. Still too big of a risk in my opinion. Odds of something like this staying a secret (especially when the ex is now a part of the family) are slim to none. :)
Re: Going to an ex's wedding
I hate weddings. Esp. Desi weddings. So me not showing up is as natural as the sun shining.
Nope this time your Mama says you HAVE TO go. No bailing on the cousin's wedding. So what do you do? And no, you don't get to conveniently get posted to the Congo - you're in the same city as the wedding. Attendance is supposed to be mandatory.
Re: Going to an ex's wedding
If my spouse was the "suspicious/jealous" type - I would avoid the wedding
otherwise I would tell him and go
Re: Going to an ex’s wedding
You cant reveal your real intent behind the thread lol.
Re: Going to an ex’s wedding
you have to somehow put MIL in the post. hmmmmm
may be CURRENT MIL knows about ex? may be? just may be?
Re: Going to an ex's wedding
they've obviously moved on, you should too.
why else would they invite an ex
Re: Going to an ex's wedding
The scenario presented by OP is what I always think when a girl is asked to spend some time with the guy in an arranged setting. During the getting to know stage, the girl and guy might become emotionally involved and they might not end up marrying each other. Although everything is arranged, the girl might be in an awkward situation if she meets the guy at any time in the future.
The only solution to this problem is to keep the getting to know meetings the minimum. I guess, 2-3 meetings are enough to know whether you are comptiable enough to marry or not.
Coming back to the issue, I think the girl should discuss this with her husband and should tell her that it was just an arranged setting which didn't work out. Hope her husband is able to understand her.
I would attend the wedding all dressed up and wouldnt let go of my oh-so-plain husband even for a minute(to show my ex, how happy I am with him even if I have to fall all over him/sit on his lap to show my love for him) Inside I would be mentally strangling my ex’s wife..Even if he is my ex and Iv moved on still I did have that emotional attachment with him..
As for jealous husband..the moment I find out its my ex marrying his cousin..I would act surprised and say OMG your cousin is marrying HIM..I hope he has changed.. I am so glad things didnt work out between us and I found u instead:wub::halo: