Going Dutch or is Chivalry Still Alive?

[Sara516]

Re: Going Dutch or is Chivalry Still Alive?

@Paheli00

One of the biggest complaints I hear from my guy friends (and DF’s friends) is that girls never even OFFER to pay. A friend of his recently flew to a different city for 4 days to spend an extended weekend w/ a girl he recently started dating (both desis). Between the flight, hotel room, lunches/dinners, show tickets etc…the guy spent over $1000 for those few days. He even took the girl shopping and bought her a almost $500 Kate Spade purse. Yet according to him…not one single time the entire weekend did the girl even OFFER to pay for anything. It’s not that he doesn’t have the money to pay for it all…but it made him feel like she didn’t appreciate or recognize all that he was doing for her. It gave him the impression that she felt entitled to it.

@Paheli00

There is no “serving him right” b/c as I said…he makes good $ so that’s not the issue. And again, living in different states (they were introduced by friends)…he can’t just take her out to dinner and that’s it. Even if she had offered to pay…he would not have let her. He makes great $$…so does she. So money itself is not an issue here b/c trust me, he’s not giving a second thought to how much he spent.

Then what’s the point of telling this story? If he 's not giving a second thought to how much he spent then what’s the complaint?