so i have two boys mashALlah .. an 8 month old and a 3 year old… and recently they have started driving me NUTS.. the Little one is eating more of solids now but takes for ever to finish it.. and hes still hungry when hes done… and with that the older one is talking and asking questions NON STOP. hes also really sensitive so i can even brush him off coz when i do i find him in tears in a corner.. that breaks my heart.. … i feel like i am preparing and feeding kids all day.. and the worst part is they dont let me go away either.. one or the other would always want me to be there to play.. i cant figure out how to get any thing done at home.. i know this is the age gap that most mothers have.. do u guys have any tips? also any suggested activities for both the ages?? any help would be greatly appreciated
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Welcome to parenthood! 
Lol sorry hon I feel for you but your boys are perfectly normal and doing exactly what they should be doing!
Three is the age of curiosity and exploring and asking a million questions. Don’t brush him off! Talk to him and explain things and yeah, I’m right there with you- I have a three year old too- and sometimes the millionth “whyyyy, mommmmmm?” is enough to make you snap but hang in there! Try to enjoy this age. Or at least that’s what I keep telling myself 
As for the 8 month old- he’s 8 months!! He’s just a baby- he’s not gonna eat at the same rate as a toddler, let alone a child. You have to be more patient. He should be on mainly solids now. What foods are you giving him? Give him what you guys eat sans spices- Roti, chawal, meat, daal etc. It will keep him full for longer, and always supervise his eating of course for safety reasons. Just mush everything up together. Oatmeal is also filling.
Where is hubby in all of this? I seriously think you need a break and a chance to step away for one afternoon or evening a week for a few hours. Can he watch them while you get some alone time? Can you hire a sitter?
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Toddlers have so much energy, take them to a park or a play area where they can run around and exhaust themselves.
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awww haha 
i think u need a hug!
you arnt doing anything wrong. I agree with SGC and raania.
i girl just turned 3 too and man o man … mama whats this? whats that? what are you doing? starts the minute she wakes and ends only when she sleeps 
when im home … i involve her in working around the house with me. help mama load the laundry, help mama make the beds and put things away … give her a soft moist cloth to wipe the table tops etc …
i even get her involved in cooking … sit her on top of the kitchen counter n have her mix stuff etc …
schedule time every day to take out the kids someplace they can run/jump (kiddie gym, park, playhouse, pool/splash pad) or if you can ask friends/family/babysitter to take them once or twice a week. Have you considered pre-school for the 3yo?
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There is 3 years between my 2 oldest, a month before I had my 2nd baby I put my eldest into playgroup and she loved it, I don’t know how I would have coped if I hadn’t sent her. It was only 3 mornings a week but it saved my sanity. And when she was at home I got her involved in everything from fetching nappies, helping bath the baby n cooking. Also took her to indoor playcentre once a week.
Now I have 3 kids a 4 years old, a 16 month old and a 3 month old. All I do all day is feed them, change nappies non stop! But the older 2 do play together so in a few months time so will your 2 kids, it’s just that your little one is still a baby. Then you will have plenty of time as they will be busy playing with each other n not bother you as much.
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thanks every one for the amazing support and understanding.. i realize that this is a phase its just that i have started feeling depressed and useless and as if feeding babies is the only purpose of my life.. well today is a little better alhamdulillah.. i think the baby is not too fond of purees so today we ate some solid bites.. that wasnt too hard.. time consuming but not too much fighting.. :D.. now i have to figure out what to feed him that he can chew( he only has two teeth).. the best would be to come up with some thing that both boys eat.. aaah.. parenthood.. amazing but tiring.. :D.. thanks all once again do let me know if you have any good ideas on foods also.. any tips on teaching how to eat on his own.. ( like finger foods and stuff) mine just throws all on the floor:(
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That’s how it’ll be in the beginning with the baby- put down a plastic sheet under the high chair if you have floors to protect and let him have at it. It will eventually make it’s way to his mouth and he’ll get the hang of it. This has a great list: Finger foods | BabyCenter