Anyone? I’d love to know your successful stories to get some motivation for myself.
I was doing graduation in Lahore(Pakistan) when I had to leave education because of some sudden changes in my circumstances. Now after 7 years of marriage and having 3 kids being homeschooled, I want to complete my degree.
So anyone willing to share your struggle story?
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Not after kids but my begum completed her graduation (applied mathematics) after marriage. Only thing you need is support largely from husband (and from in-laws if living in joint family-system). I went with her on her final paper day. It was fun. Her papers were in fact around 4 months after marriage so after her last paper, we just went out and roamed on roads for Karachi...beaches.....restaurants aimlessly :)
My mom did her 2nd Masters when we were kid. I still remember, she used to study while teaching us while taking care of household work too. I can never pay-her back for what she did for us!
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A friend who has 2 sons went back to school for her MS last year, after her sons started school. Its totally do-able.
However, how will you do it while homeschooling your kids? Who will watch them and teach them?
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It gets tricky if you are homeschooling your children. If you have someone who can look after the kids while you are in class, thats an added bonus. warna these days there are so many online colleges where you can take classes and study on your own time. I started my masters after i got married and am finishing up with a 1 year old. Its kinda hard since she wants my attention all the time but Alhamd i have a supportive husband who gives me time to study while he plays with our daughter or takes her out. I am almost done though and if i had a choice,i would have either finished before she was born or wait till she was in school because its really hard to focus and study when a toddler is pulling on your pants or wants to play with the computer.
Well it's definately not easy.. specially with 3 kids ill tell you. I have one baby girl masallah and I managed to finish my second bachelors degree. My husband is finishing up his masters and insallah he'll be done within a year so it's hard for us financially right now because he doesn't work and I work at a decent job that covers our bills and gives us plenty Alhumdulliah to live on. Neverthless, my point is that it won't be easy but it can be done if you are dedicated to finishing school. Good Luck!
Well I know my phuppo lives in a pind in Pakistan and yet she went onto completing her M.Ed after marriage and has now been a principal of her local school for many years, even after having kids.
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This is so tough for me. My studies are so important and I just can't leave them after all this time. I've talked to soon to be hubby and made it very very clear that I will not stand for it if I can't complete my degree. The only thing is, do I finish it in Paki with the help and support of soon to be hubby and remember the fact that the States don't accept Pakistani degrees, or do I come back with/without hubby for a year and a half to finish them, depending on my parents once again, which I will hate, as they have already done so much?
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munnay and munni ki amaan did her bachelors after we got married and her masters with twins on her case, plus with a fulltime job.
Currently I am going through a 6 month executive mgmt program, which I am doing on top of work, travel, family and laming around on GS :) while the classes are weekends, there is a lot reading and project work to do during the week so it has to be balanced somehow.
its not impossible, it takes some sacrifice, some support, some planning, some discipline and some motivation.
** remember the fact that the States don't accept Pakistani degrees**
partial credit is pretty much always given, years of education and accreditation of the institution are key factors.
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Thanks for sharing these motivating stories DC, Mian, Ira, Coolgirl, X2 and others.
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I agree with X2, and also if you have the chance even if it's a Pakistani institution then you should complete what you're doing. I was doing a Bachelor's degree in Psychology when I left Pakistan, now I can complete it here in the UK but before that I plan to do A-Levels in English and Psychology this year because I feel the material I learnt in Pak wasn't good enough for UK's degree standard examination.
I'd be doing my A-Levels with the open University of Oxford and then I'll try to get into Uni if my husband can get a flexible job to manage homeschooling and my education easily, inshallah.