Re: giving up trust
This is so true! Focus on the good things that life has to offer, and someone's positive qualities.
You know, my grandmother always told me that a man doesn't need to go out for hamburger when he has steak waiting for him at home. Meaning, if you are worried about your husband straying, then take care of yourself, don't let yourself go, try to stay beautiful, take the initiative once in awhile, and be an intelligent conversational partner. Try to empathize with what he's going through at work if you are a SAHM, and above all, be supportive.
If he has faults, he is probably already aware of them. Don't keep harping on them. If you'd like him to pitch in, be specific. Ask him to unload the dishwasher or watch the kids, don't just say "why don't you do more."
Anyways, I hope some of this helps. By the way, are you married yet? If not, don't waste time worrying about these things yet.