any one has felt betrayed by their spouses, and dealt with infidelity, please share ur lessons, if u would like.
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Dush, how abt those who are not married? Can they share exp. from friends. Does that count?
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sure, larki NY. :>
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i have no experience when it comes to that since im not married but I cant even imagine what it would be like to experience it. I know that it would break my heart and I dont know if I would be able to cope with it. I'm very sensitive when it comes to trust and loyalty. I dont think I can ever forgive being betrayed and certainly I would no tbe able to regain any trust in my spouse. Then again ....u dont really know until your are put into such a situation.
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Ahem
The first guy who proposed to me (about ten years ago) and was very eager to meet my parents. During the same time, I caught him having sex with a pros in his office 
Just one experience was enough not to trust/get serious anyone else.
Lesson:
Never marry a hot stud… better yet, never marry.
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Big generalization.
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Married part cant say since akeele hain hum..
but as far as friends are concerned etc...
Once someone betrays me... thats teh end of it.... I cant live knowing my friend has done something to hurt me .. so deeply...
ek baar koi dil se utaar gaya to dubaara nahe ata..
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i've been betrayed by my friends and other ppl around me many times but i don't mind.woh apni adat se majboor hein to mein apni se.
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sure.. i’ve learnt that its a human nature.. WE ALL DO IT! (at SOME level or other), so i should let it go and continue on.. 
i’ve learnt that in THESE situations, just a lil more waiting causes the universe to unfolds itself and brings the same person in front of u in an entirely different position
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I have not seen a man who did not cheat on his wife in some point in life.
Not a big generalization 
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We can all say what we should do but what we end up doing normally end up being something completely different...
Matters of the heart are never rational...I can say to you that being betrayed is horrible bla bla and ill never forgive but if its someone you love and care for then you normally end up forgiving...
I have never loved any girl iv met so dealing with betrayal isnt so hard for me...and i can easily not forgive...forget and move on to the next one...but for a my best friend he forgave his girlfriend when she cheated because he loves his girlfriend...a close friend of mine has cheated on his girlfriend but she forgave him because she loves him...
I can stand on the outside and rationally argue that they are stupid but love makes you do things that you know you shouldnt do...
The worst iv seen is a girl who gets beaten by her boyfriend...if you were to ask her beforehand if she would forgive him if he did something like that she would obviously say no...say no but after being put in the situation shes forgiving him and not following any advice she is given...
Love can be your worst enemy at times...life is so much easier without it...
I heard a proverb when i was young 'When the heart acts the body is its slave'...so whatever advice anyone gives you is useless cos feelings will always win over ration...
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if hes a hot stud why did he need a pros?
good thing im less then average lookin…
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what kind of men are u hanging around?
there are many men out there that can stay faithful
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dear,
WHO NEEDS MEN ANY WAY, these kinds of men, who get USED, while doing this immoral act of cheating and infidelity.
ur lesson is probably right on, but hope is some few chaste men are out there.
may they remain protected from illicit lives.
best,
dush
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Dushwari...
lol somehow i dont get the feeling these men that you speak about mind being used...
BigMouth...
Try not to take your insecurities out on all men...If men are happy with what they have then they wont need to cheat simple...a man can be attractice and still be faithful...the exciting option can also be a safe option if you mean enough to the guy...
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Ahem Ahem Ahem Ahem Ahem
I don’t buy that from a BigMouth.
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Dushwari, just a friendly advice: You are concentrating a lot on negativities in life. Negative behaviour attracts the same. There are a lot of good people and good things in life too. Think about them as well. Regards.
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join in, do a threesome