Giving space

In a relationship,when a person doesn’t want to speak to you,then should you give him/her the space,and leave him/her alone for some days?:hmmm:

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yes thas how it is done.

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No, u go and punch them until they r ready to talk.

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^ you mean they should be forced to talk to you?:aq:

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it depends on their personality. I personally hate it when someone is upset with me and gives me the silent treatment…i cant just walk away and let them remain upset with me. I usually bug em to death til they talk, make em laugh or give lots of hugs and kisses even if they resist. :smiley:

If all my efforts have failed…then I walk away and give space til they come to me :frowning:
afterall i do have SOME pride you know :snooty:

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^ ooh… :frowning: :swh:
I do the same thing but the bugging/hugging just doesn’t work. I hate that. And vice versa, i actually DO like it when someone buggs me to talk to them…

The best thing to do is ignore and leave em alone but its so hard to do.

No, that was a joke, “don’t force the child” as amitabh bachchan said in “Amar, Akbar, Anthony” while he was pretending to be “Father” Anthony (sorry, i love that film - refuse to watch bollywood these days , but that was a classic!)

Anyway, don’t force a person to talk with u when that person is himself / herself very upset / angry / in turmoil. Both should keep away from eachother and cool down. Do some thinking, why is there a problem? Think of the reasons and how to resolve them.

Then talk when both have enough time to b calm.

there is a fine line b/w bugging and nagging :hehe:

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sometimes ppl do need some space in a relationship (doesnt mean they are naraz or nything). constant nagging or constantly asking questions about what where why how can be annoying. it's perfectly normal and healthy to do things once in a while without each other and tat includes calling less often in a long distance relatiosnhip.

lol.....lol.... im gna try dat on my husband :P

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u knw sometimes when a person is really upset they normally dnt wanna be left alone theyd rather have the person there upset with keep tryna talk to em and work tings out ...i knw i do :P

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If the person says that they don't feel like talking to you at the moment, then respect their wishes. You can politely ask when they feel would be a good time to discuss the issue, and sometimes they'll let you know. But in general, I believe space is good. We all need room to breathe, cool down, and collect our thoughts. Constantly nagging a person when they don't feel like talking can turn them off toward u and potentially do more damage.