A few months ago one of my cousin was having fights/ arguments with her boy friend.
And I was the one who told her to give him some space and take a break,may be it will calm down both of you.
She did that after a huge argument..few days ago she bought some gifts and stuff and was going to meet him,when she call him and ask him where can they meet he said he is very busy now a days with someone,she asked him but he was in love with her?
He said * per tumne last time hamari argument ke bad koi rabta hi nahi Rakha Mai samjha ab Sab kuch khatam ho chuka hai *
Now she is very sad and everytime we talk she says * kash Maine tumhare kehne ke us se break na li hoti, touch Mai rehti to wo kisi aur ke pas ba jata*
is main cute yee hai k 'mohabbat' kerney waley ko nahi pata k keyun mohabbat ki aur na hee yee pata k keyun 'mohabbat' khatam ho gaee :)
Allah!!! **yeh to qayaamat kii nishaaniyoN meN se ek nishaanii hai**** :D ab 'aashiqaan ek kone meN musalle pe baiTh ke "Allah Allah" kareN! :D**
if the relationship was this fragile and this superficial, she is better off without him and vice versa.
^ Agreed.
Also, how did she take the "break"? Couples I know who take a "break" usually talk about it and MUTUALLY decide that they will take a break....and also have a general time frame for the break (few weeks...1 months, 2 months etc). They talk about the reasons for the break and mutually decide if/when they will discuss the "relationship" again. In addition, most couples I know who took a break also decide to "date other people" during that break.....but this is also something that needs to be discussed before deciding to take a break.
Now if she by taking a "break", she just disssappeared and never actually discussed the "temporary break" with him.....then I don't blame the guy for thinking that it's over.
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Now if she by taking a "break", she just disssappeared and never actually discussed the "temporary break" with him.....then I don't blame the guy for thinking that it's over.
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Did he try to contact her during this "break" They had an argument...she never contacted him..did he? If he did and she ignored him and never responded thats her fault. She has to let him know what she is thinking. BUT if they guy never tried to contact her...it shows he was just looking for out and he got it.
PS. Its not your fault, she is an adult and should know how to handle the break with her bf.
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Now if she by taking a "break", she just disssappeared and never actually discussed the "temporary break" with him.....then I don't blame the guy for thinking that it's over.
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She did that.
Well....by dissappearing without telling any anything....she didn't take a break....that's called dumping someone. Unfortunately in this case, I side with the guy. No wonder he thought things were over.
The #1 lesson your cousin neesd to learn from this is the following:
Guys can NOT read her mind! She needs to learn to communicate what she's thinking/feeling. BOTH the people need to work on a relationship together. She shouldn't be making such major decisions without making sure that her partner is ok with it too.
if the relationship was this fragile and this superficial, she is better off without him and vice versa.
Agree.
If he did not make an effort to patch up , if he did not miss her then he was looking to be out of this and that is why such an intense fight and arguments were happening , he was looking for a way out. She provided it to him. Even if he wants to come back she should not accept that.
Or he is still bluffing and playing hard to get.
He said * per tumne last time hamari argument ke bad koi rabta hi nahi Rakha Mai samjha ab Sab kuch khatam ho chuka hai *
Now she is very sad and everytime we talk she says * kash Maine tumhare kehne ke us se break na li hoti, touch Mai rehti to wo kisi aur ke pas ba jata*
Is she right ?
No. She is wrong.
If your friend was really important to her boyfriend...he would have done something to get her back. He would have tried.
But all it took is another girl for him to get over her.
The girl was giving 100 % in this relationship,she wud do things which he like she wouldnt talk to those whom he don't like.
On the other hand the guy is way to proudy...he things any girl can fall for him not only her,
That's why I told her take a break,I though he will miss her or atleast he will contact her to check If she is doing ok.Wich he never did .
I can't see her sad like this and I dont know how should I explain her that he is not interesting anymore :(
The girl was giving 100 % in this relationship,she wud do things which he like she wouldnt talk to those whom he don't like.
On the other hand the guy is way to proudy...he things any girl can fall for him not only her,
That's why I told her take a break,I though he will miss her or atleast he will contact her to check If she is doing ok.Wich he never did .
I can't see her sad like this and I dont know how should I explain her that he is not interesting anymore :(
She did not lose much she gained a lot by getting rid of such a guy who is a just taker and not a giver.
iss main cute kiya hai
