What is the proper etiquette in terms of giving money if you are invited to the Shaddi and Valima? Do you have to give the monetary gift at one event (shaddi if from girl’s side) and valima (if from boy’s side) or do you give money at BOTH events if you were invited to both? Thanks!
Re: Giving money at Shaddi and/or Valima?
We generally give on the night that is hosted by the party that we are invited by.
So if invited by the bride's family -- on the baraat night and if by the groom's side then on the valima night.
Re: Giving money at Shaddi and/or Valima?
give ur gift at one event
we usually give half on shaadi and half on valima. We've seen both the bride's and groom's side sit down together and figure out how much everyone had given them.
Re: Giving money at Shaddi and/or Valima?
If we're invited to both events, we usually give it on the first night. The way I see it, the gift is intended for the COUPLE, not for their parents, so it shouldnt make a difference "whose night" you give it on. If you want to give the cash to the parents, then you should give it directly in their hands. I just put it into the cash cage
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Well shouldn't you give it on both nights to cover the cost of you and your family's dinner for both nights? Or maybe just give a LOT of money on one night that will cover the above costs for both nights?
Re: Giving money at Shaddi and/or Valima?
typically we give it on the shaadi day, and we make sure either to put it in the gift cage or like the bride's sister or brother or groom's sister or brother or something, not the parents since normally they are running around.
Well shouldn't you give it on both nights to cover the cost of you and your family's dinner for both nights? Or maybe just give a LOT of money on one night that will cover the above costs for both nights?
Whatever we are giving though, we give all at once, on one day, not divided in half for both days. I do remember from my wedding, people have some one day and some the next, but we usually just give it all together at once