Mama I remember posting that your Nephew will not do anything on his own because he is not use to it. You have to verbalize what you want him to do. BTW why is he living with you guys? Obviously you are not comfortable with this arrangment so you need to talk to your husband about it.
Plz don't get me wrong but I think You guys are not doing any favor for this young man if this situation is creating resentment in you. The longer this situation remain like tis, the more angry you will get and eventually it will end on a sour note.