as my due date is approaching and my husband is not here with me cuz he is in pak and i am in usa. i have my parents support but still feel depress that we will not be a complete family together when the little one comes.. Has anyone else went thought the same situation and how do u deal with it on the day of delivery?
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can he not come for your delivery?
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his process is almost complete waiting for his passport dont know how long that be?
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Good luck MC sarah
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New life/creation is completely Allah's domain and in his control. Op's baby was meant to come into this world this year.....regardless of the husband's location.
Op, i haven't popped out any babies so i doubt this meansn much coming from me.....but you'll be fine. I know many women who have given birth without their husbands by their sides; you'll be fine.
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Can't imagine being in that situation. Please take your mom into the delivery room with you. She may not be your husband, but is the next best person to have in the delivery room with you. This is provided that your relationship with her is good and she is a calm person. If not, take a trusted female who you are close to...either a sister, friend etc. Try not to stress about it. There is nothing your mom can't do that your husband would be doing for you on the day of delivering (i.e. holding your hand, massaging you etc.). Off course the ideal situation would be to have your hubby there, but you have to make the best of your situation. Good luck with your pregnancy and delivery.
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i gave birth to my son two years ago while my husband was abroad and couldn`t come on time. In fact he came when my son was almost 2 months old. I just told myself that i had to be strong and kept myself busy. I was working till the last day. I had a normal delivery but kept smsing my husband throughout . the delivery process is very hard so i guess i forgot my husband for sometime :) i did miss him a lot but as i said i made myself strong and did all i could myself. i even climed the stairs to the fourth floor of my hospital and when i went in the labour room my mil asked the doctor, "is she in labour?"as she didnt believe that i was. the doc said "her labour has started ages ago" :)
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I did. I missed him but kept in touch. Stay strong.
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shouldn't be a problem if you keep telling yourself that your husband is not away from you by his choice at all. in Pakistan,no attendants are allowed to be with you in the labour room anyway so you'll be in a better situation where you can have your mom beside you.
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hey. faced the same situation. husband came when baby was two months old. honestly it hurt emotionally in the days leading upto delivery but post delivery you become so busy and your body is so exhausted that if you have your mum, that's all you want. u look like hell and feel bulldozed and its all about you and baby and sleep
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in Pakistan,no attendants are allowed to be with you in the labour room anyway so you'll be in a better situation where you can have your mom beside you.
Thats mostly true, but i delivered at a hospital (in karachi) where my husband was by my side the whole time :)
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thx soo much for the support guys i am try to be positive and cant wait to see my baby
Have him join you through Skype, but make sure that sooji ka halwaa is not too brown.
Oops wrong thread.
Just have him join you through Skype.
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Been there done that. Since you cant do much about it, just accept it and go with it realistically. Its ok that he is not there. Honestly, husband, parents, siblings anyone, nothing matters. At the time of delivery, its YOU and ALLAH. May Allah ease it for you, is all that matters. But have him hurry his procedure and join you as soon as he can anyway. You may not even need him around near and at the delivery, but you will definitely miss him post delivery. I did.
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Happened too many times to my friends and acquaintances, this is why I started the birth control thread.
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I’m in the same situation since my husband has his interview next month and I am here in the US with my parents. As someone stated before it is Allah’s will that your baby will come into the world in such a situations as yours. I was in the same dilemma, since I have been married for four years and after an unplanned (but were over the moon) pregnancy and losing my son later, I really wanted to try again knowing my husband and I will be apart still. I prayed instikhara and left it all up Allah. Now with crappy cycles I ended up being pregnant alhumdulalilah. I do get sad, but I know eventually everything will fall into place inshallah.
OP did your husband get his visa eventually?
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He had his interview done in the beginning of August and embassy said they will send him his passport with in 1-3 months…still waiting for the passport and praying that he can be here I am due in nov let see but each day seems so long
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That is really courageous. I will be having my hubby around insha Allah but no other family member and I am already feeling sad for that… Nani Dadi and the rest of my baby’s cousins and aunt uncle wouldn’t be around 
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Keep praying and inshallah he will. He’s in AP probably, which takes some time. Try calling DOS or emailing the embassy to find out what’s going on.
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I did deliver with husband coming on and off at delivery room in karachi hospital!
Be strong! Its true th once you deliver its your mother you need the most. My husband acted childish post delivery!