Giving birth then moving back to live with inlaws/ parents for 4 wks. - ur experience

[Paheli00]

Re: Giving birth then moving back to live with inlaws/ parents for 4 wks. - ur experi

@Babybird

My family/ rishtadaar are the type that expect an elaborate meal/ dinner regardless of your circumstances. Tea and biscuits would be laughed at. My mum would would horrified if that is all I would offer and she would make it well know infront of everyone.

I don’t like the idea of having to cook and clean up continuously behind them and their kids with a newborn 1-5 days old in my own house. My husband will be taking time off work and will be there to help me. But I can’t see him making samosas/ kebabs/ pilau/ for the guests lol.

1. If you husband is at home, then there is no reason why he can’t help you with childcare. He may not actually make the kebab’s/samosas etc. but that doesn’t mean he can’t help you clean the home before and after the guests, clean the kitchen etc. My 70+ year old FIL doesn’t actually cook desi food but I have seen him help my MIL with prep work and help with cleaning up afterwards. I’m sure your husband is smart enough to learn how to cut vegetables/meat etc. and more than capable of helping with the cooking.

2. You also have the option of cooking TONS and TONS of food and freezing it. Many women freeze tons of food before the birth of child so for a few weeks afterwards, all they have to do it defrost and heat up the food. I’m sure if you asked the household forum, you’ll get tons of food ideas for this.

3. You also have the option of hiring a part-time maid/helper.

The bottom line is that none of your reasons justify you living with your mother after the way she treated you last time. You have plenty of other options. Now if you CHOOSE not to use the other options, that’s your choice.