Please don't get offended this thread seems to be opened by a whining wife rather than a husband. You are whining about very petty things , the things you should have taken charge of and fixed instead of complaining to your mama , or daddy or your wife. I agree with Faisal about marriage counseling , you two need it desperately.
Mirch, what rule says husbands should not whine when their complaints are on merit. Kya mard ka dil nahi dard kerta?