first of all no one is asking her to keep a 100% menu. I have never complained about the food, it is just that i am not used to of certain dishes and I never complained to her in the first place, it was my mother who mentioned it when she went running to her complaining about me. I have never had to ask for anything, All my life I got it or made it myself. Dont you see how embarrassing it is to ask her if I like gajar ka halwa?
secondly, nobody is involved on their own, she involves my parents when our fights get heated up and I sort of lose control. And whn my mother tells her things that she does wrong she gets offended. Like why shouldnt my mother complain about her sleeping till noon and beyond?
haha - she works, puts food on the table and yet ur still complaining.. ajeeb baat hai. & no ur mother does not need to know everything, if you want her to yes she will. You were not married before, now u are; rules and things change..