Give and Take

Lifestyle Relationships
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What on earth does this really mean?

Can a relationship ever be truly equal where both sides are giving AND taking? Is it possible to balance the scales perfectly ALL the time?

I think when we put this notion of “give and take” in our minds, we set ourselves up for failure because there WILL be times you wont be taking as much as you’re giving.

Just do your best and stop expecting things in return because the expectation is what kills it.

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Well if you just give give and give
you end up with nothing and become bitter.. imo

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I dont think many people live our lives by this motto. I mean perhaps we like to think we do, but we dont really. For instance, I know just what ill be doing for my brother. How I am giving. In comparison I dont see that much physical expression from his part. Like I will seek him out, ruffle his hair, ask if hes eaten etc etc. He on the other hand wont come and ask me all that on a regular daily basis. But I know he "gives" in other ways. You cannot measure another person's "give". You can only measure your own. And you shouldnt measure your own. Because then you expect a take.

Truth of the matter is, as long as you know you can rely on someone, and count on their love, the measurement of "give and take" goes out the window.

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Doesn't mean you have to calculate every time you give or take. Just see if you and the other person being fair, broadly.

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If there is only taking or only giving , that will hurt the relationship too. If you are only taking and not giving ever then you are considered a human leech.
If you are only giving and never taking then you are wali-ullah/saint/mother Teresa.

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Well equal giving and taking on both sides perhaps never happened, usually one is always on the upper end. However as long as nobody is being taken for a ride, it should be ok because some people are better at giving where as some find it hard.

But i believe if somebody has been on the giving end and not received anything at all in return, there definately wl come a time when they wl also turn back because everyone comes with a limit to their tolerance and patience level. Yes some really have high level of patience and a strong belief that for whatever good they do they wl be rewarded for it if not in this world then hereafter. However such people are very far and few.

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i wud like to learn the art of not expecting
when u invest ur energy and time in something ,theere shud be some incentive

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I don't think you have to learn the art of not expecting.....you just have to learn to expect from the Almighty rather than any person.
If you do that you will always be happy and well-rewarded.

I find it painful to see people complain that "I did this and that for him/her and this is how they pay me back?!" or "I'm always nice to her, why does she treat me this way?"

I believe that reward and justice should be sought from Allah.........

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this is just one of few buzz words we use in our relationships to convince ourselves k "sab acha hay"

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**Yes

an example of give and take is Respect**

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:k:

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give and take or give and receive??

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"and with all this giving and taking, and having and receiving"... joey's vows for chandler and monica's wedding. woot woot!