At the particular moment, I would punch him in his face or poke my finger in his eye.. better yet, use my knee in the "right place". Then spit on his damn face and leave as soon as possible, while he is still trying to gather himself.
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Is that how you react in situations where you're totally shocked and stunned.....like 'this isn't happening to me'....something you never expected to happen to you...'someone you knew very well and never expect it from him to do something like this'???
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Ahaan. Why.. is it difficult to imagine? Of course one can think of something to do to get out of such situations. You think I'll freeze due to the shock? I might panic, but won't leave without hurting the guy in one way or another. I believe in retaliation ..
And in self protection classes/seminars it is always advised that women use such tricks against men who try getting fresh with them.
Well, atleast I know I would do the things I mentioned. I am strong enough to survive such damn shocks, and still think of ways to fight back.
Wow…:k: I wish more women were as strong as you. Most women will rather try to panic and leave but won’t hurt the guy… If we were so strong then women wouldn’t be harrassed so often..
Angel - we women are that strong! and i think every1 of us needs to take some sort of self defense class before we go out into “the real world” and start working and living on our own.
i think its really important for us to be able to handle ourselves, especially in situations like that!
my brothers - well they are soooooo over protective that if some1 even looks at me - they’ll just go up and say 'what r u looking at? do u need your eyes?" or something meaner!
its happened all too often!
and i really do think that the girl needs to talk to that guys wife, so she knows…cuz if its happened this time, God only knows how many other times he’s done this and gotten away with it!
Mal1k - i don’t think its your place to go and say things to the girls family or the guys wife. i know you are being protective of your friend, and thats really good, but you need to be their for her and help her be strong enough to do this, instead of just doing it for her.
I might as well just help my friend & kill da person who touched her. The psychological distress that has come after that - I think murdering da person is a better ans than staying alive with a guilt.
Mal1k, the only thing i wanna say is that if your friend told you this secret of hers, she might not want you to go tell the guy’s wife or the family, ask before you make a decision about that…thats her place to decide if others need to find out about this..dont put her in a situation which she may not necessarily want to be in, I know it must be tough on you to because you want to do something that will help alleviate some of the pain shes in but sometimes all you can do is to support her
I will pray for you and your friend and Inshallah everything will work out `
Is that how you react in situations where you're totally shocked and stunned.....like 'this isn't happening to me'....something you never expected to happen to you...'someone you knew very well and never expect it from him to do something like this'???
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I think so too.
Besides depending on the girl's background... what if the wife of the person in question here doesn't believe her and the psychopath starts telling filthy lies about her. He is in a secure relationship... will she survive the aftermath.
Like someone said, the time to act is there and then ... at least to raise your voice loud enough to be heard by others and give him a scare.
Now , she must speak to her own parents or at least her mother abou tit... she might be able to sort it out in some way... and teh burden will be off her chest.
What if, telling the wife creates more problems in their relationship. Doesn't that mean that, telling the wife has led to a potential irreconcilable situation between the husband and wife. In that case, is the responsibility for contributing to a marital break-up not something to consider.
But isn't it better that the wife knows what her filthy husband is upto? I mean, if the low life has tried it with one girl, it is sure that he has been doing it with many other girls too. In that case .. there is no( truthful ) relationship at all. The woman has to know, so that she can have a talk with her husband, and try to straighten him up.
It is better to let women know, what their men are upto .. atleast there is a chance that the men would learn their lessons and the relationship would be a truthful one.
It’s just… i don’t know, i know i wouldn’t be able to handle the burden of knowing kai i have contributed towards breaking up someone’s marriage. That’s a guilt i would never want on my shoulders. But i know you are right… it’s just.. i don’t know. How to reconcile that you are taking the right step, alongwith the knowledge that these two peoples’ relationship is now going to be completely damaged..maybe even leading to divorce. It’s a responsibility i think i can’t handle for myself; that would stop me from telling the wife. For the rest of my life, i have to live with the fact that i helped break up someone else’s relationship.
i believe you are right though, i’m not saying that what i think is right. Expressed above is just how i feel, i know it is not the correct thing to do in this situation
im with nadia on this one.... i dont know if i could tell the wife...
im not as strong as a lot of females in this forum, id doubt id be able to slap or kick the losers butt... id prob just tell him to back off..
the best thing the girl can do in a situation like this talk to someone close.. sometimes ur family cant help u much. You need to talk to somenoe you can trust and someone whose fully going to listen to u..
Our desi mentality sometimes leads us to think that the girl 'must have done something to provoke it', and in a situation like this... u dont need to deal with that sort of crap...
i know the wife needs to know, but maybe she already knows and she's in denial just to keep her marriage in tact... i know its not much of a marriage when things like this happen... but still its something between the hubby and his wife..
the girl should keep out of his way... steer clear of him... and malik, if she has spoken to u about it and u really wanna do something... dont bruise or beat him up... i guess u could give him a discreet warning (verbally only) and hopefully that'll make a difference...
Sadzzz, i don't agree wid with u on this one.
i think the girls nowadays have to be able to defend themselves in situations like this.
and i think the wife needs to know (it honestly did occur to me 2 that the wife may know and is in denial - but that doesn't mean it shouldn't be brought to her attention again!).
i just think too often the women keep quite...and they just wanna forget about it, and, it makes sense but they shouldn't. cuz one woman's speaking out can prevent another woman's suffering and having to go through the same thing.
i guess i grew up with a different frame of mind...where my brothers taught me to take care of myself!
yeah na its kewl, i think most people wouldnt agree with me. I dont even agree with me on this one.. lekin yeah i just wouldnt know what to do in a situation like that. But if a friend was, I’d probably talk to the hubby myself and give him a piece of my mind…
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how r u chica? i feel like we haven’t talked in ages.
well, about this topic…like i said…we have to be able to take care of ourselves out there cuz u never know, there are a lot of monsters hiding in disguise!
about me, had a bad weekend and an even worse monday! but i’m finally feeling better again…have been SOOOOOOOO frustrated all day. but i’m back to baseline now
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