i would want to know wat is the basic criteria that u keep in mind while deciding to get married…
1)is that u say Yes to the first on who so ever comes
2) is that u follow your parents
well i asked this question becaz my parents think that it’s high time i shud get married.. but i cannot decide on … as i see different rishtas have different strategies.. and my mum keeps telling me to say yes…
and my heart sinks…
u can say yes 4 1 ,u find more qualities according 2 ur circumstances and also got ur mother approval to b her child in law.i think so u should consider ur parents decision also beside urs own.
hmmm...ur parents figure out if the rishta is ok and by the time u r in the scene, they've already done all the researching n passed the guy...
what ur answer is now shud depend on basically if u get a good feeling in ur heart abt the person n can see urself with the person... ur heart shud give a GREEN SIGNAL about the person n u shud feel good abt ur decision..
there is one thing though..if ur heart is not giving this green signal..then ask urself why...is it coz of the person? or u r not ready for marriage? u like someone else and even tho u think uve forgotten abt that person u r not really ready to move on?
be clear in ur heart that u r open to good proposals before considering the proposal...
one of my very good friends said no to a lot of proposals coz she in her heart liked someone else and she just wasnt prepared to marry anyone else tho she knew it wouldnt work out...she thought the fault was in the guys but actually subcociously she just cudnt bring herself to say yes to anyone...and she always used to say k 'i just dont get a good feeling abt this proposal'...but actually at the back of her mind the reason was something else...
some girls r also scared of the idea of marriage and keep refusing proposals coz of that
so be sure that when u refuse a good proposal its coz of them n not some issue with ur own self...
good luck :)
harum n **irem ** thx alot for the kind advices..
**irem ** i don’t like any1 ,but i’ m a chosy person and it takes time , alot of time for me to get settled wid any1… and get along..
and maybe i just need a little more time..
following parents is not the hard and fast rule..i think..
yes their advices shud be kept in mind and also respected.
yes i was not getting the Green signal
