And no, this isn’t about me, just a hypothetical question.
Would you marry a man who is already married to his 1st wife, who has given her consent and everyone is happy with the set up etc?
Would you be prepared to ‘share’ him, having him in your house a few nights a week etc? Do you think it will work in the modern world considering the numerous variables such as finance, feelings, practicality of it all, taking his kids, him taking your kids etc?
Just a light hearted discussion, would be interested in your your opinions.
No.. just my personal preference.. I wouldn't want a 'part-time' husband.. I would prob be struggling to do the housework, as well as work and basically end up a single mum at least 50% of the time (what would I do when the kids are playing up?).. Also, I would rather be with a guy who is completely content with me, not needing his 'fix' from some other woman.. First, second, third or fourth, I wouldn't be part of such an arrangement..
If you are No.2 then it is not you who will be sharing your husband with another woman but it is you who are sharing another woman's husband. No.1 is the giver, and you are the taker. dont know how many will be okay with taking. but I am sure there must be women who will be grateful to the 1st wife.
Nope, I wouldnt be able to share such a relationship- cant even think of it. It just seems so unfair on both the women as a guy cannot possibly give them equal attention. I really find the idea of polygamy damnn unjust.
Muslim man can marry 4 wives but isn't women going against Quranic law if their husband wants to marry multiple women?. There are certain Christian sects which practices polygamy also, so the question is: Is religious law above than our own desires for not being able to bear this burden?. Think about this: Is our God unjust? I personally do not think so but why a man can and women cannot practice polygamy?. Wisdom of Allah is greater than our thoughts and desires that is just my belief.
i kinda agree with what you've said as a joke Heer Ranjha.. but then again thats just my thought process and ethics- no offence to anybody and YES i do know that polygamy only applies to men in Islam for a reason which i do respect but i feel only the prophet Mohammed SAW was able to treat his wives fairly; no other normal man can really do so :/.
i agree that there isnt anyone like our Prophet SAW and its not a comparable example.. But im assuming there are people out there who live happily and fairly in a polygomous marriage.. Theres a couple in my area the man has been married to both women for years both have kids they live next door to each other seem like a very strong family unit.. With regards to OP's q i wouldnt want to be number 2 and nor would i like to be the wife in the situation where her husband is saying hel marry again.. I wouldnt be able to cope with not having my partner with me always
i kinda agree with what you've said as a joke Heer Ranjha.. but then again thats just my thought process and ethics- no offence to anybody and YES i do know that polygamy only applies to men in Islam for a reason which i do respect but i feel only the prophet Mohammed SAW was able to treat his wives fairly; no other normal man can really do so :/.
Yes ofcourse he was a human, however he was under the guidance of Allah.. this was so he can be the perfect example for human kind. Also the prophet had meditated to strive to be a good person. Im not denying others cant manage polygamy but surely not as greatly as the prophet had done. And it just seems damnn unfair on women; for argument sake the woman agrees, it could just cause havoc in the future regarding the husband favouritising one over another and regarding children etc.
