Re: Girls working after marriage?
I live in south florida. We get hurricanes. In my lifetime, there has been ONE category 5 hurricane, and it leveled Homestead, FL - Hurricane Andrew.
But EVERYONE has insurance for hurricane coverage and everyone has invested in some good hurricane shutters, and has a back up plan on what to do if hurricane category 5 comes through here again.
Now, divorces are WAAAAY more common, even in our community, than category 5 hurricanes. But there is this CONSTANT desire on the part of the community - men and women - to discourage women from working or at least obtaining an education and SOME work experience.
Just always remember, a divorce can devastate a woman. Worse if you have kids, and no back up plan, no employment options, esp if you are living abroad, and I would say it can be pretty bad even in Pakistan if you’re without much support.
I have one friend that divorced a guy when she was in residency, and he took half her money in the settlement - half of the wealth that her FATHER gifted her, because of the state laws. She was left devastated, but, she had her job. And she’s fine now, and re-married.
I have another friend now, who is divorced, and her divorce happened during grad school, and she lost her position there. So now, divorced, and jobless, and getting a job is hard at this point. Healthcare fields can be bad, if you fail and are not passed in a school, you can’t get admission elsewhere, and the record follows you.
You’re in pharm. Let’s say, you get into pharmacy school, and you get married DURING pharmacy, and your husband cheats on you, or his family gives you grief, etc etc. And you’re going through separation/divorce. Let’s leave kids out, that complicates things. You are at HIGH RISK for failure, because the focus you need for school - you wont have. You lose the pharmacy school gig, you cannot apply for another pharmacy school position, because you will have to declare that you went to this prior pharm school and they kicked you out.
Same goes for jobs. Your cousin who is a doc, if she is burnt out, and she keeps practicing, all it takes is one lawsuit, or one bad year and getting fired from a job, and she is knee deep in crap, because in these health fields, you cannot HIDE an experience. You CAN’T hide a job, people will make phone calls and find out what happened. They’ll call your prior contacts, and they will say “Well she was going to pharmacy school, what happened?”, and then the truth will come out, so you can’t even lie about it.
Plus with providors and even now pharmacists, NP’s, PA’s - there are full databanks tracking all activity - and if there is a problem with a license, you’re named in a malpractice suit, you got fired, you were on probation in your school, DOWN TO MINOR ACADEMIC DIFFICULTIES - will be known to ALL. And later on, it will be HARD to find a job. Especially when your husband and his family dump your behind on a sidewalk, which sometimes, they will do.
I have lots of horror stories.
The above is just an example of what happens if you’re married DURING your schooling, and what can go wrong. Not saying you should not do marriage plus school at the same time.
And if you don’t even go to pharmacy school and you get rishta-fied and sit at home, all it takes is one divorce or a disability in your spouse and you’ll be crying why you did not pursuit the pharmacy offer.
Pharmacists have stable careers, you’re employed for life, and low liability, you’re not perscribing narcotics if you aren’t comfy with it, and you get great benefits and awesome hours. The pharmacist I talk to at Target around here goes home at like 3 pm. So ample time to fit in a family life. And flexible hours. :k:
Plus, there is a whole line of academic pharmacists who do research and teach in medical facilities, so it can be a pretty exciting job.
I just wanted opinions on what you guys think about women working after marriage? I mean I’m personally becoming a pharmacist, so I most definitely want to work after I get married inshallah.
but she actually contemplates on whether to go back to work or not.