girls that have no brothers

Spiral · June 30, 2010, 4:55pm

well the guy is not insistent with living with his parents. But he does work really close to his home and figured that instead of wasting money renting a place, live there for a year, save up and buy a place.

That sounds reasonable.

I mean teachers could find jobs anywhere, so i doubt it will be a problem for her to get a job (that was another one of her reasons).

But this girl is really insistent for the guy to live closer to her parents and away from his parents. Her reasons are:

job is close

will miss parents

it’s in islam that she has to take care of her parents

Honestly, I dont like it when people use the name of Islam for their own advantage. I see it so often..but that’s a totally different topic altogether.

it’s the first time the guy and girl are “talking” to anyone…and his family has asked me what my opinion is about this.

Maybe its me…but im willing to compromise. if I were that girl and If i truly love the guy and he’s great and has an amazing family, and my older sister is still at home, I would gladly go with the hubby is. My parents would want me to have a happy married life and to be a good wife first, then a “good” daughter.

So Islam says that the guy has no responsibilites towards his parents?? Now come on. I understand this girl’s concern but shouldn’t the guy be equally concerned about his parents?? In the end its all going to be always about her parents. I think if she agrees that its the guy’s responsibility to take care of his parents as much as its hers to take care of her parents, and find a place to live where they are close to both the family, its more reasonable.

Lets say in this whole thing, the guy does have an older brother who can look after his parents, older brother moves for his job, family and the younger brother has to take care of the parents, this marriage won’t last.

We all love our parents and want to be close to them, see them regularly and help them as they age but just thinking about your own parents and their concerns is selfish. And I don’t understand that the guy’s family has already experienced a similiar marriage which didn’t last, why are they even thinking about this one?