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what about condoms and coil......my cousins said they are the best bet....no interference with hormones
I know what condoms are but i'm not familiar with coil. What is it exactly, Nadz?
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Are you serious.. you are taking birth control without consenting your partner?? What if he wants kids... and why don't you wanna have kids??
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^ i think she wants children but just not as soon as she's married... and if she's not on the pill or any other method of birth control, chances are she'll get preggo right away. IMHO, its wiser to wait and enjoy your newly-married life before getting into parenting - kids are a HUGE deal and pregnancy and all its changes are only phase 1.
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I must agree with sgc, even according to Islamic teachings you should first establish a understanding relationship with your spouse and adapt to the change of being married. Children and pregnancy are a very big changes. (not from personal experience though as i'm not married)
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I would be too scared to take the pill. I've heard stories about women not being able to conceive after years of being on the pill.
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Get this moved to Health and renamed "Birth Control" options.
Personally I would advise you to wait until you are married and discuss your options with husband, getting HIM to use protection in the first instance (or instances!) until you are happy to make a decision for longer term options.
All hormones affect you in some way or another.
I totally agree with RupayHalwa. All the extra hormones in your body do have a substantial effect on you. Some girls/ladies are more prone to this artificial increase of hormones. It is always hard to tell how it will develop with a certain individual. But, asking your husband to use protection is a good idea too. If you are afraid of the side effects, then asking your husband to make some effort is not wrong.
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^ "substantial effect" is a relative term. everybody responds differently- as some of us here have shared, we didn't have much of an effect, let alone a "substantial" one.
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i really think you should do more research before dismissing the BCP… its a reversible method of birth control- otherwise, why would anybody ever take it??
this is a good article- How does the pill affect fertility? - ThinkBaby Contraception
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Yes somegroovychick is right. I do want to have kids but not right away. I want to wait a little bit before. And yes my fiance knows i will be taking BCP, im not keeping him in the dark dont worry 
My mom on the other hand is totally anti any BCP. She does not want me to go on it because she thinks if i take it i will never have kids :sigh:
i dont think there is much i can do to change her mind.
and i realize you can use condoms, but hearing from other married couples i hear BCP are more reliable and much easier to use.
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sgc - Yes, I know this method of birth control works great for many women, but when women come off the pill, it usually takes a few cycles - meaning a few months to sometimes even years before they become pregnant.
I guess my fear is not being able to get pregnant when I WANT to and having to WAIT for it..you know? I guess the WAITING part would drive me nuts.
My cousin was on the pill for 10 years before she got married. I think it screwed up her body and she actually had to go on fertility meds to get pregnant...and she wasn't even that old when she was trying to conceive...maybe 28/29ish.
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i just think there are always other reasons beside the pill to not be able to conceive. your cousin could have had other medical issues that contributed and maybe the pill wasn't blameless, but i don't think it would have been the sole cause of her problems in having a baby.
like that article i posted said, taking the pill can disguise symptoms of potential fertility issues like, for example, irregular periods, because the pill regulates your period, so you wouldn't really know if you had that problem until you came off it.
i totally hear you on the waiting part though! i guess you have to work it into your planning.
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It's good you're starting now as opposed to even later than that. Whatever side effects you have, you'll know and you can switch it up (the birth control) if it's not working for you. I think you typically start about 6 months before your wedding, so you're fine.