When I first met my now Husband I was a graduate with a proffessional job, was financally stable and was older than him. My Husband on the other hand didn't have a degree or a proffessional occupation, he was younger than me and was less stable financially. ...But what he **DID have was a warm loving, caring personality and an honest, loyal considerate nature (amongst other attributes). I knew that he would make a loving Husband and one day, inshAllah, a loving Dad***. THAT is why I married him. Money, status, jobs etc etc come and go.. but the reasons I fell in love with him will, inshAllah, always be there. * **I don't see my Husband as inferior to me in any way. He is my life-partner, my equal, my soul-mate!!
If the female spouse thinks that she is superior to her Husband, than the marriage is doomed from the start. The "Superior" Wife will resent her "Inferior" Husband..**
Awwww, I love this---it reminds me of me and my husband. I'm also older and was more established when we met. He was still in school. But the first time we talked it was apparent how deeply he cared for people, how well he took care of those around him, and how motivated he was to be a good family man, and I knew he was special.
Now that he has graduated and is working, he makes the same or more than I do and works his butt off every day to help build our future. I could have landed some player banker who blows his bonus in clubs (dime a dozen here in NYC), but I looked for the character first knowing that my husband is a guy who would work hard, cut his cloth according to his means, and focus on the important things in life.