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if we decide to not have kids, then i don't see how it's affecting womanhood. just a personal preference, could be due to many circumstances. People shouldn't have to feel like they're doing wrong or missing out just by not having a kid.
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kids are crazy end of story but cute but not to have or maybe yet maybe to have .... i guess u never know till ur in that situation u may be all like hell no to kids but then after marriage be like i want some kids.... i want that gubblytoid to cuddle and hug... kids so hard to love and so hard to hate...
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Well as a guy i tell you i wouldn't want me or my wife to be to have kids for at leat 3 years or so. And moreover, financially stable to take care of such responsiblity. Sometimes i think i should marry a girl who doesn't want to have kids. Don't know..marriage it self is huge responsiblity. I mean how can someone go out with one girl to coffee again and again??.
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Well as a guy i tell you i wouldn't want me or my wife to be to have kids for at leat 3 years or so. And moreover, financially stable to take care of such responsiblity. Sometimes i think i should marry a girl who doesn't want to have kids. Don't know..marriage it self is huge responsiblity. I mean how can someone go out with one girl to coffee again and again??.
It's the repetitive dose of coffee that should be more concerning.
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Well as a guy i tell you i wouldn't want me or my wife to be to have kids for at leat 3 years or so. And moreover, financially stable to take care of such responsiblity. Sometimes i think i should marry a girl who doesn't want to have kids. Don't know..marriage it self is huge responsiblity. I mean how can someone go out with one girl to coffee again and again??.
aw man. your nature of changing girls on every coffee meetup is actual cause of the problem.
next time take girl to **different **shop. ;)
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Well sure once i took a girl to victoria secret. Does that count???.
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Well sure once i took a girl to victoria secret. Does that count???.
did it work?
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if you have kids* at 30, they will be 20 when you are 50, they will be 40, and you will be 70
if you have kids* at 40, they will be 20 when you are 60, they will be 40, and you will be 80
if you dont have kids, you will be alone at old age, and if your partner dies at 60 you will be all alone for God knows how many years, no parents no one to take care of you, no one to talk too, old ppl around you in a nursing care home
*means ur oldest one
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Xtron, you’re too much. 
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did it work?
of course!. She tried on different things and i helped her shop. She made me really happy.
@Thanks Hareeeeeem!
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You took it as a compliment?
oh well. 
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if you dont have kids, you will be alone at old age, and if your partner dies at 60 you will be all alone for God knows how many years, no parents no one to take care of you, no one to talk too, old ppl around you in a nursing care home
OR.....if you have kids, your kids could grow up to be selffish as*holes who either abandon you....or you move in with them and they (or their spouse) abuses you physically/emotionally.
Actually....I remember in high school, my senior year I actually volunteered at a nursing home for a summer. Most of the residents there had grown children. Us desis might have some "traditional values" regarding not putting our parents in a nursing home right now....but I'm not sure how those values will hold up in the next 30-40 years (ie. the next generation that will be born/raised in today's society).
Kids or no kids....there are no guarantees either way.
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I would be open to no kids dependent on the number of shoes one of those incomes (not mine) would provide for me.
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well then thats your fault, your brought up was completely flawed - if you didnt put full effort in their brought up you cannot blame your fate for that
so would you rather not have kids at all becuase they will abuse you or have kids because maybe they will grow up to be better ppl and you will know you did your part in life
i would definitely take my chances
OR.....if you have kids, your kids could grow up to be selffish as*holes who either abandon you....or you move in with them and they (or their spouse) abuses you physically/emotionally.
Actually....I remember in high school, my senior year I actually volunteered at a nursing home for a summer. Most of the residents there had grown children. Us desis might have some "traditional values" regarding not putting our parents in a nursing home right now....but I'm not sure how those values will hold up in the next 30-40 years (ie. the next generation that will be born/raised in today's society).
Kids or no kids....there are no guarantees either way.
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well then thats your fault, your brought up was completely flawed - if you didnt put full effort in their brought up you cannot blame your fate for that.
Really? So you're basically saying that when elderly people are abused by their own children.....its their own fault for not raising their children property? The "children", who're adults and are causing the abuse....are not to blame at all?
Does this "belief" apply to everything else too? If a person steals, rapes, murders etc., it's b/c their parents did not put "full effort" in raising them?
so would you rather not have kids at all becuase they will abuse you or have kids because maybe they will grow up to be better ppl and you will know you did your part in life
i would definitely take my chances
That's my point. That its a "chance" either way. Your 1st post was basically saying that if a person doesn't have kids, they will have no one to take care of them and be alone once they're old. Which is another way of saying that having children guarantees that the children will take care of you once you're old.
To have a child or not to have one....I'm not advocating it either way. Its a personal decision that needs to be made by individual couple. My "opinions" in this doesn't matter at all when it comes to people other than myself and my husband.
The point I'm trying to make is that there are no guarantees. Fear of being alone at an old age is not a reason to have a child as there is no guarantee that the child will fulfull that dream.
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e.g. if you teach your children to respect others there is no way he or she will disrespect, and if he or she does, that means you didnt teach it properly
Really? So you're basically saying that when elderly people are abused by their own children.....its their own fault for not raising their children property? No
The "children", who're adults and are causing the abuse....are not to blame at all?
*children who are adults did not drop from heaven as adults *
Does this "belief" apply to everything else too? If a person steals, rapes, murders etc., it's b/c their parents did not put "full effort" in raising them?
*yes *
That's my point. That its a "chance" either way. Your 1st post was basically saying that if a person doesn't have kids, they will have no one to take care of them and be alone once they're old. Which is another way of saying that having children guarantees that the children will take care of you once you're old.
*if as a parent you did what you are supposed to do, there is NO chance they will go astray - its not a complicated math *
To have a child or not to have one....I'm not advocating it either way. Its a personal decision that needs to be made by individual couple. My "opinions" in this doesn't matter at all when it comes to people other than myself and my husband.
The point I'm trying to make is that there are no guarantees. Fear of being alone at an old age is not a reason to have a child as there is no guarantee that the child will fulfull that dream.
*the point i am making is there is no solid reason of not having kids - and advocating the very idea *
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I was planning to be a DINK. I got broody after a month.
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e.g. if you teach your children to respect others there is no way he or she will disrespect, and if he or she does, that means you didnt teach it properly
lolololololol at the entire post. not just at the quoted part.
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I’m curious, what’s your point here? 