Re: Girls falling for older men.
^simple…demand supply equilibrium..
girls demand money…old man demands youth…perfect match win win 
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but i like mature old womenz who got alot of money
Re: Girls falling for older men.
Its a known fact, plus I have seen enough examples in real life.
This thing is not about girls only, boys when raised with out mothers, get attached to older/strong, authoritative women too.
Boys raised with out father build bonds with older males(nothing sexual).
Its a normal thing thing under not-so-normal circumstances.
It is a Freudian idea. Even though I can't pin point any specific research for this point, I DO know that our partners (if it is a good, very emotionally intimate relationship) end up resembling a whole lot of the characteristics of our parents, that we have difficulty dealing with. It is a therapeutic way for us to finally resolve childhood issues.
When it comes to missing father/mother and seeking older partners, it makes sense for that to happen. However that is not the only condition in which that would happen. I know of girls who seem to have healthily involved fathers, but they still fell for an older guy. Human psyche is VERY, VERY complicated.
In any case, you can't really say that one situation is better than other (in this context) because each situation serves a purpose (now only if it didn't end in marriage and then lifelong struggles).
I am assuming that the transference is a lot lower if the people involved have actually dealt with their childhood issues.
This research is mostly North American, on love marriages. I am wondering how it might differ for arranged marriages, or it if it would at all. Culture would also play a huge part.
Re: Girls falling for older men.
I don't believe in this Psychology BS, we are all different and we all have different reasons for determining our likes and dislikes. Most women would prefer good looking and fit older men than lazy and not so good looking boys and I bet this has nothing to do with girls' fathers or how they were raised.
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^You don't have to agree with it.
Just saying that our unconscious is much stronger and runs deeper than we know. Also, us, human beings, have amazing abilities to rationalize just about anything. We can't function without it - haha, our unconscious would kill us if we didn't know how to rationalize it.
Re: Girls falling for older men.
i fall for older men too...
dont like the immature dinge chibbe boys lolz :)
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freaky
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I don't believe in this Psychology BS, we are all different and we all have different reasons for determining our likes and dislikes. Most women would prefer good looking and fit older men than lazy and not so good looking boys and I bet this has nothing to do with girls' fathers or how they were raised.
Yes, I agree. There's this new trend where everything, even why the brown cat goes behind the car and not in front of it, is because of what happened in their childhood.
Re: Girls falling for older men.
I am 45 :)
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so if younger women fall for older guys, its ok , but if those guys marry those women, we get child molestation threads all over life1.
you females are weird creature.
Re: Girls falling for older men.
Women are strange.
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:k:
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Good thing I'm getting some grey hairs :Blush:
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why would you fall for the old and feeble when you're young and fresh. i dont get it.
age difference is important.
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why would you fall for the old and feeble when you're young and fresh. i dont get it.
age difference is important.
They are not talking about falling for geezers , they are talking about 5 to 10 year age difference.
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They are not talking about falling for geezers , they are talking about 5 to 10 year age difference.
a lot can happen in ten years, the limit would be five years. maybe i dont suffer from father- or oedipus complex, i dont know..
Re: Girls falling for older men.
i like older menzz.
Re: Girls falling for older men.
I am 45 :)
the trend is changing :)
Re: Girls falling for older men.
Not always. Sometimes girls just fall for older guys for their personalities and whatnot, NOT b/c of their "daddy" issues.
Generally speaking, girls who end up in destructive/abusive relationships are more likely than not to have "father" issues.
Re: Girls falling for older men.
Not always. Sometimes girls just fall for older guys for their personalities and whatnot, NOT b/c of their "daddy" issues.
Generally speaking, girls who end up in destructive/abusive relationships are more likely than not to have "father" issues.
The way I see it, I agree with you that it is never just the "daddy" issues. Our personalities are complex. We all know that some basic personality traits before the age of 5 predict personality later in life too, right? Then, as childhood goes on, we learn a lot more. Some of which can be changed, and some can't. During our personality development, we have all those issues like, over-protective mom, un-involved mom, middle child syndrome, over-bearing dad, lonely dad, kids' belief that a woman's place is only in the kitchen, one must be scared of dad - whatever have you. A 7 year old in that situation, doesn't know how to handle that situation better. So to save herself from it, she comes up with some (in)effective ways of handling it, for her age.
But how she decided to deal with an over-bearing, possessive dad at 7 will not continue to serve her forever. She will soon develop some more related pathologies. And all of that becomes a part of her personality - BUT, obviously not all of her personality. She can't be reduced to her unresolved issues.
You wouldn't think that only psychopaths have psychological issues, right? Every single person grows up with some psychological issues. You have either dealt with most of them or are really good at not recognizing them as a problem i.e. hiding them from yourself.
Our kids will have psychological issues too. It is impossible to avoid that. Because life isn't perfect, and a kid's mind is incapable of protecting itself completely.
That is not to say that bad things only happen in childhood. USUALLY, our issues in adulthood stem from our childhood. They come to a climax in adulthood. OR you have a traumatic event during adulthood, that leads the way (extreme case: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). Again, you either deal with it, suffer from it forever, or hide from it.