As we know that without a girls ‘razamandi’, a marriage isn’t valid. Can you give me a Hadith regarding this matter? Or any other solid reference? Cuz i couldn’t find any.
Thanks
HUM SA keya baat hia shahdi ho rahee hia lol 
anywayss find this for you might be helpfull…wish you goodluck!
Being dutiful to parents requires you to be kind to them and respectful of their wishes. This does not mean that you have to obey them in every single case. It is often the case that you can determine what serves your interests better than your parents who may not be as experienced in your affairs as you yourself are. Part of being kind to parents is not to show them that you do not think highly of their opinion. It is always
possible to persuade parents to change their opinion on many matters, if one is able to show them that a different course of action serves the best interests of their son. However, it is often the case that parents can see certain things which their son or daughter are unable to see, because of their immediate involvement in a certain situation. When a son or daughter defers to his parents’ opinion, praying Allah to guide him to what is in his own benefit, he is likely to be more successful, because Allah rewards him for being so dutiful to his parents and guides his footsteps to what is beneficial and proper. I cannot give you any concrete advice on whether you should marry this girl or not. I realize that there is mutual agreement between the two of you to get married. Both of you think that your marriage will be very successful. It may be so, but it is often possible to be rash in such situations. Therefore, it is always wise to be extra-cautious. You should ask yourself whether the readiness which your friend shows to embrace Islam is a genuine desire motivated by an appropriate understanding of
Islam or is it simply a step she is ready to take in order to secure that she is married to you? This makes a great deal of difference. If it is the latter, then you should listen to your parents and abandon the idea of marrying her altogether. On the other hand, if this woman has made a good study of Islam and is ready to become a Muslim, then she may be a very good wife to you. [If the lady has made a conscious decision to embrace Islam, she would not then relate it to her marriage to you. She would embrace Islam, regardless of whether or not this
marriage were to take place.] What you should do [in such a case] is to try to make your parents see her virtues so that they consent to your marriage and all is well within the family. If they, nevertheless, continue to object, you will not be doing something forbidden if you go ahead and marry her, realizing that she is a good Muslim. http://www.islamicity.org/dialogue/Q361.HTM
*if someone has better explaination please dont hasitate to share it with us…its a serious matter as it is i wana get marry where i want…and im sure u do too…so please if u find some thing more understanding and less confusing please share thanks…goodluck! 
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Parents pray for a daughter to complete their family, so they may love & teach her all they know; yet, deep in their heart they know that, one day they must part.
The love & joy of their life (daughter) will, one day, leave.
Oh!my God - I have always prayed & bowed to you; but, today my heart is heavy for my sunshine (daughter) is leaving.
My God, my heart aches, for I obeyed not my Lord, but what my mulla/moulvi said that I must do.
My dear daughter, never, never forgive me, because I listened to the Mulla/Moulvi and not God!
I need a Hadith or a reference like that! Not an answer from an Aalim!!
Oohoo now well that takes some time to get miss! ;) We ll keep lQQking!
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Okay Jaawan ji! Please do look cuz I need it real soon
Your answer already exists in Taliban's Afghanistan which treats women according to the RASCIST version of Quran.
May I ask and, I may be intruding upon your privacy - why is this so important? If the family is liberal then they will always respect the daughter's wishes; however, if the family is fundamentalist or pro-Taliban then, I am afraid, the daughter will have little choice.
I have the quote/interpretations that you seek - but, I'll wait until the so-called champions of Taliban-Islam come forward; noticeably, they(Achtung, Asif or Akif, Xtreme, etc) have been quiet.
Finally, this is important: You are an intelligent person with leadership qualities. Forcing a daughter into marriage against her choice is considered a violation of her human rights in the West and, Canada or USA will grant assylum to that female and, these two countries have already done so. You may wish to look further into this, in case, what you seek disappoints.
Take care!
WOWyi when we need your opinion we ll rattle your cage.
Quran does not support no racism!!! It is made for all of the mad kind NOT just for muslims men or arab muslims.
Women is not a race by the way! you need to look at the things with some OPEn mind not just shattered TV mind which acts like a puppets...quran has only ONE version...its the people who MISUNDERSTAND IT(taliban) islam and quran give women equal rights as men have...you need to grow and stop judging things from the far...and dig up some info on your own and not believe what your TV tell you!
Goodluck
HUM SA jee still lQQKing!
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HUM SA dear this might be helpful!
Praise be to Allaah.
It is not permissible for a woman to be made to marry someone she does not want. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A previously-married woman should not be married without being consulted, and a
virgin should not be married without asking her permission.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, how is her permission given?” He said, “By her silence.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6455).
‘Aa’ishah reported that a girl came to her and said, “My father married me to his brother’s son in order to raise his social
standing, and I did not want this marriage *.” ‘Aa’ishah said, “Sit here until the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) comes. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came and she told him about the girl. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sent for her father, then he gave the girl the choice of what to do. She said, “O Messenger of Allaah, I have accepted what my father did, but I wanted to
prove something to other women.” (Reported by al-Nisaa’i, 3217).
So, both the guardian and the woman must agree to the marriage. With regard to your request for our advice regarding the problem mentioned in the question, so long as this marriage has taken place, it is better for the woman to try to keep it going as much as she can, and to try to accept this husband.
She should seek reward through pleasing her parents and alsotry to reform her husband through a gentle approach and praying for guidance for him. And Allaah is the Source of
Strength.
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Jaawan! Thanks so much :)
My mother was telling me about these references but I needed the exact words.
*NO problem anything for a "pathani" ;) *
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Well thanks for the khaas inaayat :)
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They said, “OMessenger of Allaah, how is her permission given?” He said, “By her silence.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6455).
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ha ha ha ha. I think this should be in jokes section.
Bizzy i have no idea what you laughing at? IS it your selff that you find soo amusing? Yeah i thought so!!! ;)
HUM sa...Pleasure is ALL mine!!! Anytime!
;) :) ;)
Jaawan
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