In Desi families it seems like all daughter-in-laws are like servants to their mother-in-law/father-in-law. So they have to live with their spouse and take care of their mother-in-law and father-in-law 24x7, cook, and clean around the house and deal with the daily dramas in the family.
So is that what marriage is about in the Desi culture and are girls happy with this?
Re: Girls: Are you happy with this?
In Desi families it seems like all daughter-in-laws are like servants to their mother-in-law/father-in-law. So they have to live with their spouse and take care of their mother-in-law and father-in-law 24x7, cook, and clean around the house and deal with the daily dramas in the family.
So is that what marriage is about in the Desi culture and are girls happy with this?
Actually, its the other way around these days ....
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Here.we.go.again. 
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It's so bad Unos! Soon desi women will evolve and be born with a broom and a mop for arms.
Re: Girls: Are you happy with this?
In Desi families it seems like all daughter-in-laws are like servants to their mother-in-law/father-in-law. So they have to live with their spouse and take care of their mother-in-law and father-in-law 24x7, cook, and clean around the house and deal with the daily dramas in the family.
This is so wrong. So damn wrong. At least for the educated middle-class families.
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well then the girL should think properly about where she is agreeing to marry ..
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well then the girL should think properly about where she is agreeing to marry ..
Haa, as if a girl in our society is given the freedom to choose to marry any one!!! Majority of girls don't get the option to decide.
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^ o puleez they just jump tp the first rishta they get thinking if they dont marry at 20 yrs .. theyr gona die !
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maybe not the household chores, but the pressure and always the sword of bad moods, manipulation, displeasures, whims and all that hovering over your head. Specially if you are to live in a joint family system, even your eating and sleeping habits will also be observed and criticized. Whats right to you will be wrong in their books, if you cannot get along with ONE person, all the family will join them and leave you alone and what not. The icing on the cake, however, is that the men of our society will NEVER REALIZE. You have the example of GS L1 male members. Allah muaf kare. They think all SILS are monsters and haters of the MILS, blind to the facts and factors that have shaped it all. It is sad to see them all the way they become simply so partial and believe its as simple as that their wives hate and cannot stand their bechare poor beemar boorhay parents. They forget k saas bhi kabhi bahu thi 
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i dunno how to cook or clean and Allah ka laakh laakh shuker i never faced any criticism yet...my in-laws are kind of better and compromising..
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In desi culture boys cannot get sex without marriage so they have to marry and keep the girl forever and pay the price for the rest of their lives.
Boys, are you happy with this?
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^Haha, excellent question my friend! I will have to ponder over that one.
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Why do boys marry girls?
Khidmat of their parents daytime and sex at night time.
Girls are you happy with that?
Re: Girls: Are you happy with this?
In Desi families it seems like all daughter-in-laws are like servants to their mother-in-law/father-in-law. So they have to live with their spouse and take care of their mother-in-law and father-in-law 24x7, cook, and clean around the house and deal with the daily dramas in the family.
So is that what marriage is about in the Desi culture and are girls happy with this?
Unless we're talking about extreme and rare cases, no one can treat you badly unless you let them. Don't enter a situation like that. That is not something anyone needs to accept. These are not the only options (desi) girls have. Don't kid yourself into thinking they are. Don't use the "oh all inlaws are like this" excuse to act like a coward and a pushover.
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Do girls not do that for their own parents?
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Why do you expect your husband to slave away at work all day and come home just so you can nag? I wonder what would happen if all these desi guys started wondering if they are happy supporting lazy women who are "unhappy" doing basic chores.
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No... its not the case usually. People in desi families have maids to clean and sometimes cook too. So all DIL has to do is to take care of those servants. But i have seen many families where they have maids for every home chore but DIL still complains about work. I wonder why they complain if they don't have to do anything except taking care of all servants.
But i have seen some families where MIL's get rid of their maids after their sons wedding so that their DIL starts working and so all the home chores.
So we should not generalize things like saying all DIL are like servants etc.
Re: Girls: Are you happy with this?
In desi culture boys cannot get sex without marriage so they have to marry and keep the girl forever and pay the price for the rest of their lives.
Boys, are you happy with this?
same goes for the girl.
Re: Girls: Are you happy with this?
In Desi families it seems like all daughter-in-laws are like servants to their mother-in-law/father-in-law. So they have to live with their spouse and take care of their mother-in-law and father-in-law 24x7, cook, and clean around the house and deal with the daily dramas in the family.
So is that what marriage is about in the Desi culture and are girls happy with this?
this situation may be true in pakistan.
here in states, things are very different. I have seen many example where FIL and MIL are helping out DIL and bringing up grand children.
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this situation may be true in pakistan. here in states, things are very different. I have seen many example where FIL and MIL are helping out DIL and bringing up grand children.
No its not true for Pakistan as well. Yes there are some families who consider their DIL as their servants but not every other family thinks like that. Many families give all the respect and love to their DIL they don't treat her as servant. We should not generalize things.