so i was reading a thread where husband is watching porn movies/photos, and some questions came into my mind lol
my question to the girls is that would you marry a man knowing that he is doing this, if yes why , and if not why not , what are you concerns. I mean can it effect you marriage?
My question to the boys, how far a man can go with it, specially the one who thinks “every man/boy watches it, so nothing wrong with it” also if they are not happy with their marriage life (overall) are they more likely to find pleasure with other women compare to those men who dont watch it.
I wouldn't be bothered by the porn bit, assuming it didn't interfere with his everyday life. I think, by now, most guys know that porn is artificial, contrived and not real life. Personally, I would be more bothered if I found out that my husband was fantasising about his colleague, the neighbour, or some other close, real life, acquaintance than some random porn star he'll never meet.
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also if they are not happy with their marriage life (overall) are they more likely to find pleasure with other women compare to those men who dont watch it.
I don't think whether or not a guy cheats is determined by porn. If a guy is a cheater and has the intention to cheat, he is going to cheat, porn or no porn.
Wow I can't believe people won't be bothered if their husband watched porn. I would be very disturbed if my husband did that. Yes all guys have watched porn back when they were single but to keep watching it once you're married is disturbing. Why does he need to see such filth and subjugation of women once he is married?! Moreover I think a teenager or even a guy in his early 20's would watch porn and get their cheap thrills but to keep watching it once you're a husband and a father is just absurd. Personally to me, it exhibits the guy is extremely immature and needs a reality check.
One of my close friends who was born and raised in Pakistan was telling me that even most men in Pakistan have watched porn, even in the tribal areas which is where he is from. My view is that one should not as it is against our religion. If one does then it should not negatively impact the marriage. If it does then one has an addiction and needs help. Sometimes bad habits are hard to let go.
^exactly. We all know that..it is not cool religiously and other to watch these sorts of stuff. The disturbing factor should be..if porn is being watched even..after marriage. Some couple actually do watch it together..but i wouldn't promote such stuff personally in my life. There are so many other ways to bring closeness in relationship.
see i dont understand this argument of watching porn before marriage is ok vs. after marriage is not...in the west most men sleep with more than one woman in their lives (so several women) and perhaps then they dont need to sit in front of their computer and stare at random women...although even if a guy gets a lot of action, he is never less attracted a new female body...so if he watches porn for that reason he'll watch it despite how much action he's getting in real life.
as for muslim men watching porn before and after marriage...well lets say a guy watches porn before marriage to quench his sexual curiosity...it doesnt just so happen that right after ONE woman walks into his life through marriage, he's all of a sudden going to change his previous addiction of finding pleasure in random women performing sexual acts...so this watching porn before marriage is ok vs. its not ok after marriage argument is bs. If a guy watches porn (And lets accept it...most guys do except the ones who're truly religious), he's not gona stop after marriage either...no matter how wild and good his wife is in bed. its just the nature of the beast.
^Watching porn isn't necessarily an addiction. While, like anything else, it can become an addiction, not every guy who watches porn is addicted to watching it. I must say, though, that I have never understood the point of watching porn. Seriously, what do people get out of it? It isn't as if the women on screen are going to leap off screen and include you in their..um..performance. To each, their own I guess.
If he does it when he has a wife to actually do it with then I’d find it odd. However if a couple decide to see it together I don’t know why is that ‘‘depraved’’? That’s their business.
As for finding out if he has ever seen it before good luck with that
see i dont understand this argument of watching porn before marriage is ok vs. after marriage is not...in the west most men sleep with more than one woman in their lives (so several women) and perhaps then they dont need to sit in front of their computer and stare at random women...although even if a guy gets a lot of action, he is never less attracted a new female body...so if he watches porn for that reason he'll watch it despite how much action he's getting in real life.
as for muslim men watching porn before and after marriage...well lets say a guy watches porn before marriage to quench his sexual curiosity...it doesnt just so happen that right after ONE woman walks into his life through marriage, he's all of a sudden going to change his previous addiction of finding pleasure in random women performing sexual acts...so this watching porn before marriage is ok vs. its not ok after marriage argument is bs. If a guy watches porn (And lets accept it...most guys do except the ones who're truly religious), he's not gona stop after marriage either...no matter how wild and good his wife is in bed. its just the nature of the beast.
Agree.. I don't think most guys watch porn because they 'need' to.. or that many will change after marriage if they've been watching it beforehand..
