I need some advice from you females (and guys) please!
So theres this girl I like. We’ve known eachother for over a year now and we’re pretty good friends. Recently, I have found myself becoming attracted to her. Now, being the type of person that I am I would never ever tell a girl I liked her unless I was 100% sure that she felt the same way(fear of rejection and complete humiliation!). So I’ve been trying my best to find out if she feels the same way.
We did lunch one afternoon last week (ended up talking for SIX hours) and I dropped quite a few hints. She brought up the subject of relationships and then asked me if there was anyone I had my eye on. I said there was but I wasn’t sure that she felt the same about me. SO… sigh she said that she was sure that this person would feel the same way, and that I’m very attractive and handsome and could have anyone I wanted. She insisted that I tell this person. Now, I thought she was just being nice but then she repeated this quite a few times. I also said that maybe the girl was just being friendly and I was getting the wrong end of the stick. Her reply to this was that most girls know what they’re doing when it comes to giving signals to guys.
So what should I make of this? Can I assume that she is feeling the same way? Is there any other way I could find out for sure how she feels without asking her straight out (I will never do this in a million years!!!)?
dude,
your acting sooo shy,
be a man yarr, ask her straight.... if you can't do that, then write her a letter os mail her. She definately likes you... is she indian/paki or english ?
I would say just tell her bhai--that way at least you'll know either way!
Pluck up the courage and go for it...:)
Iranian haaN? Hmm...bach ke rehna bhai.. (talking from experience here).Hey if she knows Persian then why don't you read the following verse of Hafiz to her:
**
Agar aan Turk i Shirazi ba-dast aarad dil e maa raa
Ba khaal e Hindu-esh bakhsham, Samarqand o Bukhara raa
**
which means
(If that beauty from Shiraz would only take my heart in her hands
I would barter the whole of Samarkand and Bukhara for the mole on her cheek!)
This is probably one of the most famous poems in the Persian language...
hint: if you change the word '** aan *' (that) in the first line to ' **een *' (this) when you read it to her..she will get the message AND be well impressed! (if she's cultured). Then you guys can invite me to your wedding :)
my advice: if you’re uncomfortable with asking her directly, as it seems that you are, try finding our through a third party such as a mutual friend, and if that isn’t an attractive option to you, then i would say write her a letter or an e-mail and sit tight to hear her response.
Iranian haaN? Hmm...bach ke rehna bhai.. (talking from
experience here).<<
Why? What happened?
Chears for the poem, her persian isnt too good but I may give it go!
Moona,
Thanks :)
Its difficult coz we dont really have any mutual friends. I guess I'm just looking for a clear sign from her before I even think of approaching her!
What's your opinion on our conversation I mentioned in the first post?
i think the conversation in your first post seems general from her end. honestly, as i read it, i see no indication or hint that she has feelings for you specifically. better safe than sorry. that is why you need to find out fcts on what she truly feels about you.
I think you should let her know about your feelings toward her. Its better tell her than to keep everything to yourself. I'm sure, you will be fine, there is nothing to worry and if something does happen then just PM me. ;)
1- Get over your idiotic shyness. Shyness is cute to girls (not all of them though) only to some extent. You seem to be possessing more extent of it. Not good.
2- Sounds like she likes you too and want you to open up to her. If you won't then eventually she'd give up on you and find someone else. All the more reason to get over your shyness.
If on the other hand, she doesn't like you the way you do but still dropped hints then she's eventually gonna play games with you. In that case, my friend, either play games with her (if you are into it) and shag her few times before dumping her altogether OR just completely dump her right away.
Remember, there is nothing wrong with being deceptive and dishonest with people who play games with you.
3- Oh, and no matter what you do, stop being a wuss. You know this woman for one year, like her now and still can't talk to her. That ain't even no shyness, it's wussiness.
