I was just wondering, do you think it’s possible for a girl to have ambitions after marriage? Or is looking after the children way too tough?
Because I was recently talking to my sister and we were sharing our hopes and ambitions with each other, and I asked her what’s her ambition and she said, she just wants to find a good pati and settle down…
I was a bit shocked to be honest. I think it’s good for women to have ambitions after marriage. Even if they don’t want to work, maybe something like writing a book…
So anyway is this an idealistic soch? Can a woman have ambitions after she’s married. Very interested to hear what the married with kids women will say.
depends upon the saas bahoo and susraal relations.. i mean, if these things will let her live with energy and nonfrustrations ENOUGH.. sure, market can absorb 200million books a year, every year :k:
now.. nothing wrong with ambitions.. depending upon pati and how they both feel about it .. i’ve yet to come across a third couple in like thousands that i’ve seen where both ppl convinced on a single thing, in a single attempt.. i’m thinking my wife’s biggest goal to be beat every desi expectations possible.. like joining gym with me or something ..
I was just wondering, do you think it's possible for a girl to have ambitions after marriage? Or is looking after the children way too tough?
Because I was recently talking to my sister and we were sharing our hopes and ambitions with each other, and I asked her what's her ambition and she said, she just wants to find a good pati and settle down...
I was a bit shocked to be honest. I think it's good for women to have ambitions after marriage. Even if they don't want to work, maybe something like writing a book...
So anyway is this an idealistic soch? Can a woman have ambitions after she's married. Very interested to hear what the married with kids women will say.
its good to have ambitions but i thin kthe "Idealistic" soch is probably from the "pati" side, alot of men in the eastern culture beleive that woman shuld be there to take care of the home etc. it does depend on how your husband feels if you have a job after marraige and persue a career etc.
for me yes i do have dreams and want to persue a career. but that maight change when i get married and have children etc.
for an asian woman it is hard wrok looking after her husband, the children (if they live with the in laws then them too) and then balancing a career too, it just depends wats more important to that woman :)
being a very good companion to the husband.
and a source of strength for a future together.
happy and content momets for the family with children, inshallah.
living by example, and protecting own parents and siblings, his parents and siblings and children from harm of any kind.
being there, totally when some failure or mis fortune befalls.
learning and teaching good things from experiences in this life.
always keeping faith in the foreground and as a shield from evil doing of others.
while maintaining a personal career and livlihood.
as a team, couples who are attached to each other, can really make a change in the world.
leaving the world and one's family with an unforgettable memory of care and laughter and unconditional love.
this is my humble ambition after getting wed to someone who is realizing of his role in supporting me to do all this and is worthy as a confidant and an understanding committed companion.
aho u can have ambitions other than lukin after the kids… like
-lukin after ur saas and tryin ur best to please her and win her heart
-making new dishes everyday… as they say the way to a man’s heart goes through the stomach or somthing like that
-being informed of wots goin on in poora mohalla( no not the guppie, the ACTUAL mohalla)
-making sure ur pati is well informed of how ill ur saas is towards u
-making sure he doesnt have to do anything after he enters the house and everything is done for him… etc. etc.
I was just wondering, do you think it's possible for a girl to have ambitions after marriage? Or is looking after the children way too tough?
Because I was recently talking to my sister and we were sharing our hopes and ambitions with each other, and I asked her what's her ambition and she said, she just wants to find a good pati and settle down...
I was a bit shocked to be honest. I think it's good for women to have ambitions after marriage. Even if they don't want to work, maybe something like writing a book...
So anyway is this an idealistic soch? Can a woman have ambitions after she's married. Very interested to hear what the married with kids women will say.
In my opinion..It is very important for a woman to have ambitions of her own.It really depends on her.By ambitions I really donot meanonly outside the home...Basically I ..(and again its my opinion) think that a woman should try to think of something...u know like find her passion...in anything that she really loves to do..it may be the kid's educations...may be religious studies for herself..or most probably outside the home things like education for herself and wat not.Only she herself can tell what it really is.I believe that we only get one life time and trying to do our level best in wat ever we do try to do...we may fail...but at least you know that you tried.It is very unfair to build your own self on relationships...for example ..having kids because they will KEEP u happy..unfair becuz the kids did not ask for a responsibility like that...They cannot keep a person happy if the person is not Happy to begin with. It is really important that you dont let this life pass you by., becuz kids grow and have their own life...you then are left with the void..like"now what??""..Anyway I am going on and on...Live Love and be Happy:D:D
sometimes after marriage, ur biggest ambition in life will be to keep him off u...u can do so by feigning headache, a sore back, flu or many other sophisticated tricks.
Well i can only speak for myself. When i got married i was a secondary school teacher. But i fell pregnant straight away and i left teaching and became a full time mum and housewife. Howeva when my daughter was abt 2 and a half after a lot of encouragement and support from my hub he told me to do whateva made me happy-i wasnt happy teaching(long after school hours with prep work and marking) so i studied again. Im a fitness freak and studio coordinators at my gym told me to train and become a fitness instructor-so i did. I studied the for anatomy and physiology exam while my daughter was asleep and i went and did my practical exam for Exercise to Music. Anyway my hubs supported me a lot by taking care of our daughter whilst i was in training but i did it and now im fully qualified and my daughter has started nursery and i teach both mornings and evenings and its fab and i can fit it around family life as well. So i think it depends on the individual and what u want.
i'v always been against this whole mentality of not doing anything after marriage...... i mean come on.....getting married dosnt put a full stop to ur life..... a person should have dreams and ambitions in their life..... The thing we need to understand is tha marriage is a PART of contiuning life..... i will strongly recommend every single girl to do something in their life..... its a very positive approach plus you get life only once.....
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