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By the way, my "no dating" rule is specifically for teens. If my kids is in her/his twenties and looking for a life partner, I would be supportive.
And I do think it's important not to confuse dating with other forms of socializing with people of the opposite gender. It is true that these days the line is blurred as kids hang out in groups and then go off in pairs to make out and such.
Re: girlfriend or a boyfriend
No dates.
Yes, for sure I want my boys to be comfortable around the opposite gender and to know how to treat them. There is nothing wrong with the inter-mingling of the genders if its appropriately chaperoned and appropriate behaviors are learned and enforced. Its an essential part of their upbringing I think. I just cant imagine raising kids to be separate from the opposite gender and then - all of a sudden - sending them off to marry one of them. They need to learn and know the other half of the population if they are to be good and successful people. So yes, my boys will be allowed to take a girl to the movies or to the park and to have his little dates and will know how to behave in a gentlemanly manner and not to fear the unknown of the opposite gender.
wow, what is our culture and religion coming to? if your boy/girl came home and told u they liked some boy/girl and ''can i go on a date with them?" you would encourage and allow that? what would happen if after say 4-5 dates to the movies or park your boy/girl start getting serious/strong feelings for this person? its not exactly like your looking to marry them off at that teenage age, right, so in essence your tempting them to get too attached to something that cant be permanent. i feel thats not only cruel but also very unhealthy.
learning about the other gender doesnt have to be done on ''dates''. it can be easily done during 8 hour long school days where the boys and girls are together ALL DAY LONG. in my opinion, thats more than enough time.
Absolutely not. What the hell?! Next thing we will be saying "oh yea, our sons can move in with their girlfriends or go to a hotel for an afternoon and fool around".
If they go out on a date then I should go out and have an affair.
i agree! yikes, reading some of these answers is scaring me...and its answered my question of "what is the islamic world coming too??"
u can do all u want to not have ure kids date.. but u cant stop em.. either move to arabia where ure chances of success will be somewhat higher.. or educate them on this issue.
i honestly wouldnt know how to tackle the issue if my kid was not gonna accept no for an answer.. but i wouldnt like them dating for sure.
mama.. i think u can know how to deal with the opp sex without having to go out on a date u know. the average school day and lunch time of an hour and a snack time of 15 mins is more than enuff for a guy or girl to interact and learn how to be decent around each other .
very nicely said :)
By the way, my "no dating" rule is specifically for teens. If my kids is in her/his twenties and looking for a life partner, I would be supportive.
And I do think it's important not to confuse dating with other forms of socializing with people of the opposite gender. It is true that these days the line is blurred as kids hang out in groups and then go off in pairs to make out and such.
I agree with Sahar. InshAllah when I have kids, I am going to strictly to enforce the "no dating" rule when they are teenagers. But I will also tell them (when they are old enough to understand better) that when the time comes for them to find a life partner....... that I would be supportive. My fiance and I will set a strong example of neither one of us dated while we were in high school or even undergrad. And the only "people" we ever dated was each other .. that is because we took the whole thing very seriously and only got emotionally involved with someone we knew we would be with forever. This also meant getting our parents involved at a very early point.... not going behind their backs.
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^I totally agree with you and all those that have said no to dating, Inshallah i will do my best to raise my children, where they do not feel the need to date, and will realise that its not an option...you can check a girl/guy out for marriage(within reason/boundaries)...definitely not for dating
By the way, my "no dating" rule is specifically for teens. **If my kids is in her/his twenties and looking for a life partner, I would be supportive.
And I do think it's important not to confuse dating with other forms of socializing with people of the opposite gender. It is true that these days the line is blurred as kids hang out in groups and then go off in pairs to make out and such.**
Totally agree..