Okay so I went to a meeting that I was invited to because I sort of knew the guy who was heading it. At the meeting I met a friend of the guy I knew. An older (desi) man. We didnt talk much except that he asked me where I was from and gave me his card. He also took my number incase he needed my skills for some assistance in the future.
So I get a call this morning and he tells me that he bought a 2004 planner/notebook for me. And then proceeded to ask me where I want to meet to pick it up. Now I am feeling a bit uncomfortable cause I dont really know him. I dont know if I should accept a gift for no apparent reason. If I tell my parents they may not like it so I dont know what to do in that case either.
Would you accept the gift?? For no special occassion and from whom you dont really even know?? I suggested for him to mail it but he said the lines at the post office are too long. I realize its a nice gesture but sigh.
Munni - My advice would be you should not accept the Gift since you really don’t know about the guy - Else if you are looking forward to know more about him then accept the Gift.
Your situation sorta looks like just Met 'n Hookup.
I sounds like. I mean, I don't the guy or the conversation that took place or his body language etc but it's more likely a guy wanting to shag a woman in any general situation like this than not.
He asked you where you from, gave his card to you, took your phone number - The next day he gives you a call and you still believe it’s not the Met 'n Hookup case? – OK
OK Munni - You made it a lot easier now - You believe it’s not like dating case then I wonder(as you said in your original post) you are feeling a bit uncomfortable? - Maybe the guy has good intentions - maybe not - I can’t say - It’s all on yours…
I wouldn't accept the gift. You just met him! I think it is a bit odd for somebody to be giving you gifts ... unless they want something in return.
If you want, ask him why he bought you a gift and then respectfully decline it saying you don't know him and it just wouldn't be appropriate to accept it. That's what I would do.
just tell him u don't accept gifts from ppl who are same age as ur father..but i know u wont be able to say that so just say u thought about it and u wouldnt feel comfertable taking gift..and u normally dont like acceptin gifts
Munni, exchanging gifts is not a bad thing at all. But when you dont know someone and that someone gives you gift, it should make you a bit sceptical. So you are right for being a bit quizzical.
Now as you told me that he lives alone, and that you dont know him very well and still he calls you and want you to meet him. The first thing that i was thinking was maybe he have a son of your age and maybe he is interested in you for him.
you dont think he has a son due to his age.
So Munni I think this guy who you said is above 40, must have some feelings for you and believe me it could be the case. I am not saying that it is the case but it could be.
Atleast i cant see any other reason for such a thing. PPl might think that I am a pesimist, and maybe I am, I dont know that but I have seen old men hitting on young girls thats why I cant rule out this at all.
So munni my advice will be to be straight forward with him and ask him why is he being so good to you? This is the best solution that I can think of.
I know its not easy for you, but I dont think that your accepting the gift without knowing the reason behind it would help in anyway. And even if I am wrong about all that i think, atleast you need to know the reason. Dont you?
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**just tell him u don't accept gifts from ppl who are same age as ur father..but i know u wont be able to say that so just say u thought about it and u wouldnt feel comfertable taking gift..and u normally dont like acceptin gifts
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lolz @ the first part. i agree with Sheraz's advice. If i were you, i wouldn't accept the gift at all. Better to be safe than sorry:~/
Thanks for the replies all. I have decided like a lot of people suggested here, to not accept the gift. I just dont find it appropriate. I will come up with something to tell him.
PA, I cant tell him to give it to my friend because I dont know when I will be seeing him, which is what he'd probably ask.
