Gifts for in laws

[Paheli00]

Re: Gifts for in laws

@ruby17

Already do stuff like spa days and lunches to the extent that is possible. She’s a homebody and if I ever say I’m going out shopping tomorrow join me she will just say maybe next time I’m feeling tired.

There is a difference between saying “I’m going shopping tomorrow…join me” versus “MIL…I was thinking that maybe you and I can have lunch. Just us girls. I think it would be nice for just the two of us to go grab something to eat while the boys stay home” or something like that. You need to make it seem like you want to spend with with HER and are excited about it…not that you want her to tag along while you go shopping.

@ruby17

I already spend so much time with her that’s why I’m finding it suffocating. I get home at 7pm and sit with her until 11pm every evening.

And you know how to change it based on the other thread. Get your husband involved so you’re not spending 4 hours every evening with her.

@ruby17

On Saturday it’s the one day I get to spend time with my husband and Sunday is for chores. I’m not sure how much more time I can give her.

But none of this is set in stone.

1. You really spend every minute…from the time you wake up to until you go to bed…every-single-Saturday…with your husband? Do you guys just leave the home for the entire day? Is there any reason you can’t make plans for lunch or something with you MIL one Saturday and discus it with your husband before and the two of you go out to dinner (by yourselves) on Friday to make up for those hours?

2. I work full-time too and do plenty of chores. I’m curious what “chores” do you have that takes up your ENTIRE Sunday every weekend that you can’t even go out to lunch every other Sunday or something like that?

The bottom line is that all this is flexible. You can’t give your MIL what YOU think she will love and then be upset b/c she’s not reacting the way you want her to. You know what makes her happy and with your husband’s help and a bit of re-arranging your schedule, you can give it to her if you really wanted to.