I am getting married in March and I am wanting ideas of what to give the in laws family.
We are not having a mehndi, magni, walima or anything.
Just one joint day and Nikkah will be done on that day.
I have also said I don’t want gold from my mother in law or my own mum. My own mum is insisting on giving me some though.
So I will have 2 sister in laws and 3 brothers in laws.
I asked my future husband what I should gift and he said, brothers don’t wear shalwar kameez.
So I thought:
Brother in laws: £50 Selfridges vouchers
Sister in laws: A suit, 2-3 hijabs (they wear the hijab) and perfume
Mother in law: Suit and my mum wants to give her a gold ring (?!?!)
Father in law: Shalwar kameez suit
Groom: Wedding ring, watch, suit, cufflinks and aftershave
All I will say is that you don't want there to be too much discrepancy between sisters and brothers in law. It sounds like you are giving a lot of individual items to the sisters but only one thing to the brothers. Even if that is more in monetary value, everyone will notice the volume you give, not the envelope you slip the brothers.
Maybe add some cuff links to their gift or take something away from the sisters, like the scarves.
Dress shirts for the brother in laws with ittar/cologne?
Sister in laws: makeup kit? shalwar kameez? chooriyan?
mother in law is fine.
father in law: how about a nice watch?
there is no such thing as too little or too much. Gift exchanges should be done out of good will. I am only sharing my ideas to give you more options. Good luck. :)
Are they the only people in the family you are gifting?or are there uncles/aunties etc?If this is your list i personally think its a bit less.... But it depends on your families (both sides).
agree that vouchers are definitely not appropriate....
and if MIL is getting a gold ring (which is not uncommon) then perhaps a nice watch for the FIL would be a good idea too.
keep in mind that just because you said you don't want gold from your MIL, like your own mother, she may not follow your instructions.....you may well end up getting something.....don't be caught off-guard.
Eh, we just gave a shalwar kameez (men other than groom don't take stuff in my family). It's not too little. It's your family and your own traditions. Stick to your gut instinct.
Don't get drawn into the culture of over-gifting just for the sake of appearances. If you don't want to create a imbalance, then decline accepting any expensive gifts as well. If your MIL does gift you jewelry, etc., graciously ask her to save it for your children.