Did any of you gift gold to MIL or husband’s siblings as gifts for the wedding? If not gold, what else did you give for the immediate females in the family?
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im plannin a bracelet and ring to my MIL if not kangans -_- .. and rings for my SIL and BIL's wife. its runs in my family .. dont ask .. i wish i cud change it but some things are better left to your parents and this is what they come up with!!
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Yup same here - Gold for MIL & 3 SILs. Parents don't get convinced with the reasons I give.
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Yup same here - Gold for MIL & 3 SILs. Parents don't get convinced with the reasons I give.
with me its the other way around .. theyre convincing me to give it and im like ... enough with the givings already .. take it easy!
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That's what i am saying. They are not convinced for my reasons for NOT giving it. I keep telling them its too much & not required but they have a bajillion reasons for giving it ..
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That's what i am saying. They are not convinced for my reasons for NOT giving it. I keep telling them its too much & not required but they have a bajillion reasons for giving it ..
oh okay!!! .. us youngsters know better ! :P
like .. why not just give it to mee !!
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We gave only my sister's MIL a gold bangle !! A kada actually round 1000K pounds !! One and only gift !!
Rest all the family members got a pair of pure silver glasses ( drinking ) that we got made in Bombay. My mom was paying for the wedding so we didn't do many elaborate gifts.
But I always feel its good to gift your future in laws reasonable expensive gifts (according to your financial status) during the wedding. It's good etiquette. No matter how much a person says no gifts , everyone loves getting gifts. And people notice the value as well.
The only other time we gave gifts to my sister's in laws was during the baby shower. That time it was just saris for all the girls and silver Lakshmi coins for all the ladies attending the function.
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We gave only my sister's MIL a gold bangle !! A kada actually round 1000K pounds !! One and only gift !!
Rest all the family members got a pair of pure silver glasses ( drinking ) that we got made in Bombay. My mom was paying for the wedding so we didn't do many elaborate gifts.
But I always feel its good to gift your future in laws reasonable expensive gifts (according to your financial status) during the wedding. It's good etiquette. No matter how much a person says no gifts , everyone loves getting gifts. And people notice the value as well.
The only other time we gave gifts to my sister's in laws was during the baby shower. That time it was just saris for all the girls and silver Lakshmi coins for all the ladies attending the function.
even though our traditions vary i love the idea of saris and coins :) ... its so cultural !! .. we forget all that nowadays n totally bargain for perfume sets and new fancy stuff..
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What are the actual reasons for why these gifts are given?????
I find it quite wrong......
Re: Gifting gold to groom's mother/siblings
What are the actual reasons for why these gifts are given?????
I find it quite wrong......
varies from families to families ...
some are obliged based on tradition and since they are sending their daughters along to the in laws house they get scared about it
some are sooo courteous that they think gold/diamonds is the highest form of a gift that can be given and think no less gift will suffice ..
both are wrong but again you cant stop someone from GIVING a gift on the wedding .. a lot of people give baskets of goodies and clothes as well ..
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we did. On the engagement i gave earrings to my MIL. At the wedding we gave her a pedant set, and rings to my SILs (three of them.) We also gifted a outfit to each family member.
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bah. the giving of gold.
snort
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I personally can not understand why anyone either side of the marriage would want to give gold gifts to each other… I can understand gifting the couple but not the family members thats kinda silly. Its seems more like a gift as if though to say thank you for taking my daughter or son… Most gift giving ive read is to the boys family 
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At my sisters wedding we gave a gold kangan to the MIL and a bracelet to the SIL. and speaking of giving gifts to the in laws, has anyone heard of the groom side giving gifts to the brides mother and sisters? i haven’t.not entirely fair,is it! 
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My MIL gave gifts to my family on my nikah! and even at the rukhsati I know she will gift things to my family.
My mom is giving gold earings to my MIL, i dont have any SIL so it will be fine giving one gold item! 
and for FIL and BIL mom will get some clothes etc.
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at the end of the day if someone cannot afford to .. they wont .. kia kar saktey hain !! ... but yeah .. this hype is so saddening that its become such a riwaaj aka trend =|
like i said .. id rather take that gold with me .. and secondly yeah why wudnt my mom or sister not get any .. it was awful previously on the engagement to shower gifts but see my mother n sister not get .............. ahm ..
anyways these things just make a mess in a relationship! .. i knw for a fact my MIL is an amazing woman n i totally adore her for taking care of me ..
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My MIL gave gifts to my family on my nikah! and even at the rukhsati I know she will gift things to my family. My mom is giving gold earings to my MIL, i dont have any SIL so it will be fine giving one gold item! :) and for FIL and BIL mom will get some clothes etc.
really? well we havent had a lot of shadis in the family.since the elder cousins were all married and had kids by the time we grew up into teenagers,which is i believe when the whole crazy fascination with weddings begins:)
at my sisters wedding all the giving was done by us all the taking there was, was taken care of by the grooms side :) and i thought that was the order of the things. of course there was 'bari' and everything but that was about it as far as the giving goes :) my mom and dad did get a suit each now i come to think of it though.