What do you think about it?
Good or bad? Why?
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Those who do not know what it is, for them......... It is a registry opened by some people at departmental stores etc. to list all those items they wish for an ocassion...like wedding, birthday or baby shower etc.
Guests can go online of, or in person, to these departmental stores and search for the host name and then pick up items to buy for the host.
registry and no boxed gifts is embedded in english culture now but even then some of my english friends feel that the host shouldnt do this and gifts are not obligatory and we should be allowed to do as we want to and not feel bound to buy a gift...
in some ways pakistani gift of money is much better as ppl can pay off the wedding expenses or buy as they require...
again its become more commercialised and the departmental store benefits...
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There is growing use for it. But some people start wondering if this is one form of coercion to make people give gift to host.
A way of making people think of buying something when invited or a modern way of begging?
A hidden way of saying.
" We need these items. Please bring it when we feed you while you celebrate our ocassion with us." "Thank you for your thoughtfullness, but we want you to pick up items which we need."
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I actually like registries. It makes it a lot easier for me to buy something for people, because I know right away what they want. so I just look for an item on the list that is in my price range and buy that. It takes away the stress of having to pick something out for someone, and thinking they may return it or what not.
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I actually like registries. It makes it a lot easier for me to buy something for people, because I know right away what they want. so I just look for an item on the list that is in my price range and buy that. It takes away the stress of having to pick something out for someone, and thinking they may return it or what not.
That is nice. And no argument there.
But I was merely pointing out the** initiation** to even place the registry to tell people what they want.
" We are marrying, you must bring something from the list". Seems a bit tacky.
If someone brings something, a gift reciept should be enough to exchange it for something else.
Besides, without registry, the host is not actually asking for something but will appreciate the gift with the sincere thought.
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I don't see any problem with it if u think the guests won't get offended.. seems quite practical tbh and makes more sense than those who have too much 'pride' to do it but then turn around and moan they have no money to move out or buy things after taking loans left, right and centre and begging family to help them out..
Most of the weddings we go to nowadays do the 'no boxed gifts' thing.
My brother and SIL refused to do it cos they said it was 'tacky' yet on the day of the wedding one of her uncles actually got up on the mic and said 'would anyone like to gift the couple some money to start off their new life' and all the guests were like 'wtf???' Isn't it a million times worse to ask at the actual reception (but apparently it was their 'custom', what a nice way of trying to justify it lol)..
Ideally the guests should be able to choose whether to buy from the registry or not but I do like the idea of people giving things that will actually be useful to the couple..
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Btw hope this thread doesn't take a nasty turn like the similar one that was in the 'Wedding' section a while back :D
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Good.
Diwana, it is considered bad etiquette to put registry info on the invitation (unless it's a shower invitation -- then it's okay). What most people do these days is have a wedding website with info about the couple, directions, hotels, and there is also registry info for those who want it. Most people register at the same 5-6 stores, so I usually do a quick search on those store websites, to see if I can find gift ideas. I think registries are great!
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Good points deeba and sahar:
I know registry is convenient way for wedding ceremony guests. But some people have gone a little too far and use it for every ocassion like house warming, birthdays, anniversaries.... etc.
There should be another trend in my opinion. Perhaps except wedding.
No hint/exectation or 'begging' of gift. Just come and enjoy the ocassion. Bless the people with good company or a nice card. It should be left up to people weather they even choose to give a gift.