This is one of the most common bad habbits a human has.
the defination of “gheebat” which i found after some research is " to say something against a person in his absence which he would have disliked if he were present there, and that bad quality actually exists in him"
1. We some times don’t realize it till the time we finish or someone mentions it to us.
2. We dont usually want to be interrupted while doing it.
3. we dont usually have the courage to tell the person regarding his bad habbit alone in an appropriate manner so that he may think over it and correct himself.
4. We prommise to ourselves not to do it again every time we do it and end up doing it again.
Telling about the bad habbits of a person (for example, stealing …etc) just to warn those who might be affected or to those who might be helpful, is not bad in certain conditions.
There are too many ways and forms of doing it, like copying someone and making fun of someone in his absence is also a form of “Gheebat”.
One of the solution to this problem is to go and say sorry to that person of whom we were doing “gheebat”
Also, during a discussion, trying to avoid mentioning the name of a person who is disliked by most of the people in the group.
To remind onself that this act is similar to eating a dead brother’s flesh (according to a hadith)
Can anyone help us by advising everyone here, the best way to prevent this bad habbit?