Oh man, just the thought of it makes you cringe. I was recently at the hospital making a few errands; when I came across this gentleman holding onto his jewels like some rotweiler bit 'em off ouch He couldn’t even walk properly!
Somehow I overheard the man talking with his wife of 5 children saying, “this is for you hun”.
That statement blew my mind. Why would he do such a thing? Stop fertilization! Why can’t people simply resort to the infamous condoms. Why go to such an extreme as to get their tubes tied! Could it be too much of a hassle?
I mean condoms as I’ve known since grade 9 health class are 98% effective, you just can’t go wrong and if any signs of pregnancy there is always spermicide or the pill.
Oh and so it has come to my knowledge women can get stitched too. Why?! Uff, to endure such pain.
And if they do insist on getting their tubes tied would the “experience” be the same??
Simple methods of avoiding pregnancy are better off wouldn’t u agree?
Ok, I know this topic is a bit too personal but lets see what you guys have to say about it.
Jitna Diya Sarkar Nay Mujko, Itni Meri Auqat Nahi, Yeh Saab Tumhara Karam Hai Aqa, Mujh Mein Aisi Koi Baat Nahin.
Vasectomy (and this is the first time I have heard of it is getting your tubes tied - that is normally referred to the female operation) is a relatively simple, safe and reliable method of family planning. It can be done as an out-patient procedure. I believe that is has practically no side effects and virlity is not affected. I personally know several people who have done it and would choose to do so myself in the future if the need should arise.
The choice of contraception is a very personal thing. Most other methods offer only partial reliability. They have a variety of drawbacks, but I won't go into this now. (BTW, I have friends who have four children and two of them are due to condom failures)
These people had 5 kids - maybe some of them were born due to contraception failure. Maybe this man saw his wife tired, worn out and both of them having financial problems. He appreciated all her efforts in bringing his children into the world and raising them. He saw her pain in childbirth, her daily fatigue, and decide that it was enough. So I don't see anything bad about this. He is a man that I can understand and admire. He did something to help.
Rather than getting scared, why not praise this man for having assumed his part of the responsibility in procreation and being willing to do something to resolve a situation instead of being afraid and letting his wife shoulder all the responsibility?
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**and if any signs of pregnancy there is always spermicide or the pill.
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Simple methods of avoiding pregnancy are better off wouldn't u agree?
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Firstly, if there are any signs of preganancy, then all the spermicide in the world won't do you any good - fertlisation will have already occured and so killing sperm won't make a difference.
Secondly, getting one's tubes tied is the height of stupidity. What would that man do if, say, tomorrow, Allah decreed that the man's wife and children would die in an accident????
Secondly, getting one’s tubes tied is the height of stupidity. What would that man do if, say, tomorrow, Allah decreed that the man’s wife and children would die in an accident???
He’d be left unable to ever have a family again.
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This procedure is reversable, so in ur scenario one can always go back and get em untied
Its like sayin why would anyone smoke cigarettes when they know what its doing to their lungs
Its a personal choice that ppl make for their peace of mind, try putting yourself in his shoes feeding clothing and educating 5 kids
Its not easy financially, the financial problems take their toll emotionally too.
Every body knows that condoms and the pill are only 98 or 99% of a safety net
Some couples just need that extra 2% for their ease of mind so they can enjoy their sexual life peacefully rather then fretting over if the condom's on properly or did they take the pill at the rite time
Plus vasectomy is reversible for 5 years, it doesnt hurt after the surgery. The man was holding onto his groin area cause it feels like there is a pressure over it or something
A tight jockey pant or such for a week and he is back to work in no time
and if you think this is too much, here is what they do in the villages in china
they inject some kind of glue into the tube which hardens when its inside hence forming a barrier for the flow of sperms