I agree i believe now we are living in the modern world and some of the traditions such as pretending to fast are way extreme. Last year me and the hubby had the last 4 days of ramadan in Pakistan and I was on my periods at the time so that night i told my SIL that I would not be waking up for sehri and my MIL said but you must what will your husband say, what shall we tell him that you are not keeping a fast. I was like he’s my husband I’m sure he knows by now what goes on with my body once a month lol** Anyway my MIL was so shocked** she said that i was impure, dirty etc for telling such a thing to my husband.
Point is there is no shame in this and there is no reason to force someone to keep a fast they will more than likely make up the days they missed after